One would think that the suspicions of even the most uncritical might
be aroused by the rigidly absolute and impersonal nature of women’s
sex ideals. The notion of purity as lying in the abstention from a
particular act except under carefully prescribed circumstances has
all the marks of a primitive taboo and none of the characteristics of
a rational moral principle. The ideals of woman’s honor and chastity
have without doubt been built up in answer to human wants--the defense
which is invariably given of customs, good or bad. Probably those
sociologists are not far wrong who hold that they have developed as
a response, in early times, to the sentiments of man as a property
owner; later, in response to masculine vanity and jealousy, though
these motives have, of course, been idealized beyond all recognition.
We need not be surprised, then, to find that they bear no relation
to an interest in woman’s spiritual welfare and growth, an interest
to which society is only now giving birth with pitiable pains of
labor. To follow an ideal which almost entirely excludes sex interest
as something evil is to condemn one of the richest elements in
personal experience. And this ideal has regulated not only woman’s
sex experience but has demanded and received incalculable sacrifices
in all the phases of her life, mercilessly limiting the sphere of her
activities, smothering interests of value and nourishing others to an
unnatural state of development, and warping her character to satisfy
its most exacting demands. Because she must first of all conform
to an unpolluted archetype, and because society must be secure in
the knowledge that she is indeed so conforming, she has never been
able to meet life freely, to make what experience she could out of
circumstances, to poke about here and there in the nooks and crannies
of her surroundings better to understand the world in which she lives.
We find here a more subtle but more deadly limitation than exclusion
from institutions of learning or from political privileges. And under
this limitation woman has labored in the service of a paltry ideal.
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