Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
It is said that we English are no longer to be characterised as a
truth-speaking people. This is a distressing charge, and yet we cannot
put it away from us with a high hand. Possibly we are in a stage
of civilisation which does not tend to produce the fine courage of
absolute truthfulness. He who is without fear is commonly without
falsehood; and a nation brought up amid the chivalries of war dares
to be true. But we live in times of peace: we are no longer called
on to defend the truth of our word by the strength of our hand. We
speak with very little sense of responsibility, because no one calls
us to account; and, so far as we are truth-tellers, we are so out of
pure truth of heart and uprightness of life. That is, we may be, as a
nation, losing the habit of truth to which the nation’s childhood was
trained, in ways however rough and ready; but we are growing up, and
the truth that is among us is perhaps of a higher quality than the
more general truthfulness of earlier days. Now, truth is indeed the
white flower of a blameless life, and not the mere result of a fearless
habit. The work before us is to bring up our children to this higher
manner of truth. We no longer treat this or that particular lie or
bit of deceit as a local ailment, for which we have only to apply the
proper lotion or plaster; we treat it as symptomatic, as denoting a
radical defect of character which we set ourselves to correct.
Opinion without knowledge, says Darwin, has no value, and to treat
the tendency to untruthfulness that children often show, one should
have a good deal of knowledge of a special kind. To treat a child _de
novo_, place him under a moral microscope, record our observations,
and formulate opinions based upon that child, and as many more as we
can get into focus, is, no doubt, useful and important work. But it is
work for which we must qualify ourselves. The child is a human being,
immature, but yet, perhaps, a human being at his best. Who amongst
us has such gifts of seeing, knowing, comprehending, imagining, such
capacities for loving, giving, believing, as the little child in the
midst! We have no higher praise for our wisest and best than that they
are fresh and keen as little children in their interests and loves.
Now, we maintain that it is not sufficient to bring unaided common
sense and good intentions to this most delicate art of child-study. We
cannot afford to discard the wisdom of the past and begin anew with the
effort to collect and systematise, hoping to accomplish as much and
more in our short span than the centuries have brought us.
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