Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
In this matter of lying, for example, unaided common sense is likely
to start upon one of two theses: either the child is born true, and
you must keep him so; or, the child is born false, and you must cure
him of it. Popular opinion leans strongly to the first theory in these
days; and, as we perceive only that which we believe, the tendency
is, perhaps, to take the absolute truthfulness and honour of children
a little too much for granted. If you would have children true, you
must, of course, treat them as if they were true, and believe them
to be true. But, all the same, wisdom may not play the ostrich. In
the last generation, people accepted their children as born false,
and, what more likely to make them so than this foregone conclusion?
Possibly some falling off in truthfulness in our day is traceable to
the dogmatic teaching upon which our forbears were brought up.
The wisdom of the ages--_i.e._, philosophy, and the science of the
present, especially physiology, and more particularly what we may call
psycho-physiology--show us that both these positions are wrong, and
that all theories founded upon either position, or upon any midway
point between the two, must needs be wrong too. A child is born neither
true nor false. He is absolutely without either virtue or vice when
he comes into the world. He has tendencies, indeed, but these are no
more either virtuous or vicious than is the colour of his eyes. Even
the child of a liar is not necessarily born a liar, because, we are
assured, acquired tendencies are not transmitted. But there is this
to be said. The child born of a family which has from generation to
generation been in a subject position may have less predisposition
to truthfulness than the child of a family which has belonged for
generations to the ruling class. As in the natural world all substances
must be reduced to their elements before they can be chemically dealt
with, so in the moral world, if we wish to treat an offence, it is best
to trace it to that elemental property of human nature of which it is
the probable outcome. Now, lying, even in its worst forms, is by no
means elemental. Ambition is elemental, avarice, vanity, gratitude,
love and hate. But lying arises from secondary causes. The treatment is
all the more difficult. It is no longer a case of--the child has lied,
punish him; but, where is the weak place in his character, or what is
the defect in his education, which has induced this lying habit, if it
be a habit? How shall we, not punish the lie, but treat the failing
of which it is symptomatic. From this point of view let us consider
the extremely interesting classification of lies presented to us by an
American educationalist.[15]
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