Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
“Not so fast! I am painting a good woman. Here comes in a condition
which hardly any one takes into account. Mrs. Jumeau will lie with
stiffened limbs and blue pale face for hours at a time. Is she
simulating illness? you might as well say that a man could simulate
a gunshot wound. But the thing people forget is, the intimate
relation and co-operation of body and mind; that the body lends
itself _involuntarily_ to carry out the conceptions of the thinking
brain. Mrs. Jumeau does not _think_ herself into pallor, but every
infinitesimal nerve fibre, which entwines each equally infinitesimal
capillary which brings colour to the cheek, is intimately connected
with the thinking brain, in obedience to whose mandates it relaxes
or contracts. Its relaxation brings colour and vigour with the free
flow of the blood, its contraction, pallor, and stagnation; and the
feeling as well as the look of being sealed in a death-like trance. The
whole mystery depends on this co-operation of thought and substance of
which few women are aware. The diagnosis is simply this, the sufferer
has the craving for outward tokens of the esteem which is essential
to her nature; she recalls how such tokens accompany her seasons of
illness, the sympathetic body perceives the situation, and she is ill;
by-and-by, the tokens of esteem cease to come with the attacks of
illness, but the habit has been set up, and she goes on having ‘attacks
’ which bring real suffering to herself, and of the slightest agency in
which she is utterly unconscious.”
Conviction slowly forced itself on Mr. Jumeau; now that his wife was
shown entirely blameless, he could concede the rest. More, he began to
suspect something rotten in the State of Denmark, or women like his
wife would never have been compelled to make so abnormal a vent for a
craving proper to human nature.
“I begin to see; what must I do?”
“In Mrs. Jumeau’s case, I may venture to recommend a course which would
not answer with one in a thousand. Tell her all I have told you. Make
her mistress of the situation.--I need not say, save her as much as you
can from the anguish of self-contempt. Trust her, she will come to the
rescue, and devise means to save herself; and, all the time, she will
want help from you, wise as well as tender. For the rest, those who
have in less measure--
“‘The reason firm, the temp’rate will’--
‘massage,’ and other devices for annulling the extraordinary physical
sensibility to mental conditions, and, at the same time, excluding the
patient from the possibility of the affectionate notice she craves,
may do a great deal. But this mischief which, in one shape or other,
blights the lives of, say, forty per cent. of our best and most highly
organised women, is one more instance of how lives are ruined by an
education which is not only imperfect, but proceeds on wrong lines.”
“How could education help in this?”
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