Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
What is it? Pretty Lucy’s face clouds into sullenness. Kind Harry
is quick to take offence, and his outbursts spoil people’s comfort.
Willie, with all his nonsense, has fits of positive moroseness. Tom
argues--is always in the right. Alice--is the child always quite
straightforward? There is reason enough for the strain of anxiety that
mingles with the mother’s joy. It is not easy to keep eight or nine
young people at their best for weeks together, without their usual
employments, when you consider that, wanting their elders’ modicum of
self-control, they may have their father’s failings, and their mother’s
failings, and ugly traits besides hardly to be accounted for. Is it a
counsel of perfection that mothers should have “Quiet Days” of rest for
body and mind, and for such spiritual refreshment as may be, to prepare
them for the exhausting (however delightful) strain of the holidays?
Much arrears of work must fall to the heads of the house in the young
folk’s holidays. They will want to estimate, as they get opportunity,
the new thought that is leavening their children’s minds; to modify,
without appearing to do so, the opinions the young people are
forming. They must keep a clear line of demarcation between duties
and pastimes, even in the holidays; and they must resume the work of
character-training, relinquished to some extent while the children are
away at school. But, after all, the holiday problem is much easier than
it looks, as many a light-hearted mother knows.
There is a way of it, a certain “Open sesame,” which mothers know,
or, if they do not, all the worse for the happiness of Holiday House.
Occupation? Many interests? Occupation, of course; we know what
befalls idle hands; but “interests” are only successful in conjunction
with the password; without it, the more excitingly interesting the
interests the more apt are they to disturb the domestic atmosphere and
make one sulky, and another domineering, and a third selfish, and each
“naughty” in that particular way in which “’tis his nature to.”
Every mother knows the secret, but some may have forgotten the magic
of it. Paradoxical as the statement may sound, there is no one thing
of which it is harder to convince young people than that their parents
love them. They do not talk about the matter, but supposing they did,
this would be the avowal of nine children out of ten:
“Oh, of course, mother loves me in a way, but not as she loves X.”
“How ‘in a way’?”
“You know what I mean. She _is_ mother, so of course she cares about
things for me and all that.”
“But how does she love X.?”
“Oh, I can’t explain; she’s fond of her, likes to look at her, and
touch her, and--now don’t go and think I’m saying things about mother.
She’s quite fair and treats us all _just_ alike; but who could help
liking X. best? I’m so horrid! Nobody cares for me.”
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