Plutarch's essays and miscellanies, Vol. 3 (of 5) : $b Comprising all his works collected under the title of "Morals"Plutarch
Philosophy
Plutarch's essays and miscellanies, Vol. 3 (of 5) : $b Comprising all his works collected under the title of "Morals"
Plutarch
Classical literature; Essays; Ethics; Philosophy
inviter, the simple invited, the invited that invites another. We have
spoken already concerning the inviter, and it will not be improper, in
my opinion, to deliver my sentiments about the other two. He that is
invited and invites others, should, in my opinion, be sparing in the
number that he brings. He should not, as if he were to forage in an
enemy’s country, carry all he can with him; or, like those who go to
possess a new-found land, by the excessive number of his own friends,
incommode or exclude the friends of the inviter, so that the inviter
must be in the same case with those that set forth suppers to Hecate
and the Gods who avert evil, of which neither they nor any of their
family partake, except of the smoke and trouble. It is true they only
speak in waggery that say,
He that at Delphi offers sacrifice
Must after meat for his own dinner buy.
But the same thing really happens to him who entertains ill-bred guests
or friends, who with a great many shadows, as it were harpies, tear
and devour his provision. Besides, he should not take anybody that
he may meet along with him to another’s entertainment, but chiefly
the entertainer’s acquaintance, as it were contending with him and
preventing him in the invitation. But if that cannot be effected,
let him carry such of his own friends as the entertainer would
choose himself; to a civil modest man, some of complaisant humor; to
a learned man, ingenious persons; to a man that hath borne office,
some of the same rank; and, in short, such whose acquaintance he hath
formerly sought and would be now glad of. For it will be extremely
pleasing and obliging to bring such into company together; but one
who brings to a feast men who have no conformity at all with the
feast-maker, but who are perfect aliens and strangers to him,—as
hard drinkers to a sober man,—gluttons and sumptuous persons to a
temperate thrifty entertainer,—or to a young, merry, boon companion,
grave old philosophers solemnly talking through their beards,—will be
very disobliging, and turn all the intended mirth into an unpleasant
sourness. The entertained should be as obliging to the entertainer as
the entertainer to the entertained; and then he will be most obliging,
when not only he himself, but all those that come by his means, are
pleasant and agreeable.
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