The weak man joins numberless organisations and derives a great deal
of pride from the mere fact of his membership in them. In general he
will not allow anyone to discuss or criticise those organisations.
The anonymous citizen of Chicago or Chillicothe is easily aroused by
criticisms of his native city overheard elsewhere, for he identifies
himself with his native city for lack of any distinction of his own.
Members of so called "aristocratic" families, themselves incapable
of any achievement, are most unbearable owing to their family pride.
They obscurely feel that if their relationship to some more or less
distinguished ancestor was taken away from them they would sink into
complete obscurity. The stupid traveler who constantly flaunts the flag
of his country wherever he happens to be, is also an inferior who is
trying to claim all the virtues which the jingoes of his land consider
as national characteristics.
Close imitation and identification with the person we imitate cannot
but lead to conflicts, for it sooner or later means that we encroach
upon the rights of our model.
=Early Conflicts.= The little boy who imitates his father,
identifies himself with him and tries to "become" his father, may
only provoke mirth when he dons his father's garments or carries his
father's walking stick.
When he carries his imitation to the point of handling his father's
razors or sampling his cigars, he may court what, to him, is a very
unintelligible, illogical and humiliating form of punishment.
"If father is always right, why do I get spanked for doing what father
does?" the child asks himself with a child's pitiless logic.
A profound hostility to the oppressive father may then grow in the mind
of the imitative child, in no wise due to sexual complications.
This is also the way in which a rivalry may arise between son and
father for the non-sexual possession of the mother, the freedom of her
room and her bed, the sole enjoyment of her caresses, the sole disposal
of her time, the sole domination over her.
The father enjoys all those privileges, and in order to be exactly like
him, the son must also enjoy them "exclusively" which is logically
impossible and leads to unconscious death wishes.
=Death Wishes.= The death wishes that lurk in the son's mind when his
father and rival is concerned and reveal themselves thru dreams, are
not simply murderous cravings. They are symbolical, like the death
wishes which some fond mother may express thru her dreams when her
beloved child has interfered too much with her activities in her waking
hours.
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