Ragged homes and how to mend themBayly, Mrs. (Mary)
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Ragged homes and how to mend them
Bayly, Mrs. (Mary)
Charities -- Great Britain; Poor -- England -- London
I find that, when they can be induced to make the effort, their
experience helps them to arrive at conclusions of far more value than
any mere theoretical suggestions; and I have often the pleasure of
seeing the ideas which I may have thrown out serve them as a kind of
scaffolding, useful only as enabling them to erect a building more
adapted to their own mode of life and circumstances.
A few evenings since, I was saying to them how much better it would
be to try to employ and direct children’s energies, than to be so
often punishing them for inconvenient manifestations of them. I
shewed them the German plan of amusing children for a length of time,
with little bundles of sticks that could be arranged in a variety of
forms; also, how to cut out paper, patchwork, &c. I said—
‘You will find that children will keep themselves amused much longer,
and far more earnestly, if you will treat their rational play with
some respect, and not do violence to their feelings, by applying to
it such terms as “mess, stuff, bother.”’
One woman looked up from her work, having evidently thoroughly
received the idea, and said—
‘There, now, how often I’ve said to ’em, “Get along with your
bother:” I jist wish I hadn’t.’
At the next meeting, I asked this woman if she had tried any of the
amusements; she said—
‘O ma’am, I have never had such a week before with the children; they
builded all over the table two or three times a-day; and I told them,
when they made a very nice house, to let mother see; and the little
“critters” were so pleased, and “_we haven’t had no beatin_.”’
About a quarter before nine o’clock, our missionary comes in, and
concludes all with a concise, well-adapted address, and a short
prayer. I must take this opportunity of stating, that I attribute
our success, under God’s blessing, quite as much to the excellent
influence which he has exercised without, as to anything that has
been done within. In visiting the women, and inducing them, in the
first place, to attend the meeting, he has taken a part which I could
not; and, by his wise and timely suggestions, he has often saved me
from mistakes.
We did not start with the rules as they now exist,—we were not then
ripe for them; but as the right time came, I introduced them, and
they were passed with the full consent of the whole meeting. Hence
the mothers view themselves—and justly—as governed by their own laws.
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