England -- Social life and customs -- Fiction; Guardian and ward -- Fiction; Physicians -- Fiction; Single men -- Fiction
Every teacher must learn something from the taught, I suppose, though it
be only an idea of his own ignorance. And I found myself learning from
Rose all the time. Her simplicities rebuked my complexities; her
innocence disturbed my sophistication. But most I learned from her not
only the importance of truth-telling in the social system, but the
superior excellence of it in the difficult scheme of civilized life. By
always telling the truth one saves oneself from a multitude of fatiguing
cares. I don’t say that Rose knew this, even subconsciously; she told
the truth because it was in her nature. But it might also have been her
privilege. Of all people, a pretty woman has least reason to put herself
to the trouble of inventions; because she would always be forgiven.
It was of course too late for me to become truthful spontaneously, as
Rose could be; but under her influence, child as she was and fully grown
man (if any man is ever fully grown) as I was, I learned to think twice
and be truthful on the second thought. I learned, too, through her
unconscious tuition, that other people’s feelings are rarely as delicate
as we fancy them, and often never worth serious consideration; at any
rate, that the health of one’s own soul is more important than the
comfort of anyone else.
I speak of myself as a teacher, but I had dispensed no formal
instruction. Whatever Rose got from me was in the ordinary course of
conversation, at breakfast and in the garden and at odd times, and
perhaps particularly at night, when she had gone to bed and I sat with
her for half an hour and, according to Hannah, excited her little brain.
I am sure that I have advised thousands of parents not to overdo the
good-night gossip; but doctors rarely practise what they preach.
I used to read to her too; and if she had not wanted the same stories so
often we might have consumed hundreds of books together. Ruskin’s “King
of the Golden River” (does anyone read that now?) was one of her
favourites, and I could not substitute a word in it without being
detected. That legend is, of course, a lesson too.
All that I had to offer was a _gradus_ to life. The real instructors
would come later, with their geography and history and mathematics and
languages and so forth. The most that I hoped for was that, indirectly,
the effect of my general attitude to things might be that Rose some day
would be able to avoid a few pitfalls. To get positive qualities into
another is more difficult than to implant a certain caution. “Oh, you
men are all alike!” I felt that if I could make it impossible for Rose
ever to say that, I should have done something far better than to fill
her mind with facts and figures.
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