Senescence, the Last Half of LifeHall, G. Stanley (Granville Stanley)
Science
Senescence, the Last Half of Life
Hall, G. Stanley (Granville Stanley)
Geriatrics
This critical age has its own peculiar temptations to which woman
entering middle life sometimes succumbs. She, like man, is prone to
ask of the future whether it is all to be like the present or past
and, if so, what is to become of the unfulfilled dreams of youth. The
Prince Charming never came; or perhaps her ideal has proven only a
clay image; or her affection, or his, may have found another focus
that seems worthier. Hence it is in no wise strange that some women,
hitherto good by the old standards, now make a break with their past,
impelled to do so by an augmented desire to taste all the joys of life
before it is forever too late. Not only does it seem intolerable to
go on to the end as they are but there is perhaps some tempter who
detects and waters these seeds of discontent and helps the middle-aged
woman on to feel that she has been a coward to life. Beaudelaire, who
certainly thought he understood French women, said that for most of
them at thirty-five who are married and perhaps for even more who are
unwed, anything was possible. Even curiosity is a spur to adventure
and fancy, if not conduct, may prompt to cast off all restraints. “Why
not?” is a question that incessantly arises and every answer seems
unsatisfactory. And how many of us can qualify, by being without sin,
to cast the first stone at those who fall here. Such women are too old
to enter upon a life of vice but often form secret and occasionally
very happy alliances with, usually, older men, which may last for years
without involving any abandonment of their stated occupation or leaving
the ranks of respectability and with now, unquestionably, a growing
disposition on the part of society to condone, even though it may
suspect or even know.
Again, as we men grow old, we recognize that we have lost something
of whatever attraction we have had for the other sex generally and
often come to regard most of its members as somewhat trivial and to
prefer the society of other men. Even the love of husbands and wives
happily married takes on a different character; and they are fortunate,
indeed, if the losses are balanced or compensated for by the gains,
as they should ideally be, or if friendship waxes as erotism wanes.
The old beau who devotes attention without intention to younger women
can, at best, only amuse and rarely interest them, although they may
feel subtly flattered. Sometimes they find delectation in cajoling him
and playing upon his weaknesses and they may also come to indulge in
a freedom of speech and manner with him that they would never permit
themselves with men of their own age; while, conversely, friendships
between older women and younger men are always more sincere. The
case of the doddering dotard with the flapper is rare, save in the
literature of senile psychopathology and medical jurisprudence, where
it is by no means uncommon. But this we shall not here discuss.
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