Senescence, the Last Half of LifeHall, G. Stanley (Granville Stanley)
Science
Senescence, the Last Half of Life
Hall, G. Stanley (Granville Stanley)
Geriatrics
In the medical literature on the menopause (Kisch, who studied 96
cases; Laudet, 95; Tilt, Faye, and Mayer, 97 each; and especially the
more philosophical Börner and Currier) we find very little save records
of physiological and anatomical changes, so that it has remained
for the Freudians to exploit the perhaps far more important psychic
changes that characterize this stage of life. The love life in the
new and larger sense in which this is now coming to be understood
is the very heart and core of woman’s nature and it plays a vaster
rôle in the life of man than had till lately been suspected. Whatever
thwarts or diverts the _vita sexualis_ from its normal course brings
all kinds of disasters in its train. About all the transformations of
senescence root in the fact that by this recession of the life tide we
are gradually cut loose from the more vital currents of the life of
the race and individuality now has its unique innings. The debauchee,
who marries perhaps late and after long experience with women of easy
virtue, often finds a modest wife disappointing and misses all the arts
of allurement he had found in his orgies. So, too, when the happily
married man finds the earlier ardors of his wife growing cool, he is
only too liable to suspect waning affection, when in fact nature is
only following her inexorable course. He may even wonder if, in the
inscrutable ways Eros has, his wife’s fancy may have unconsciously
strayed to some more engaging man or fallen a victim to some baseless
suspicion of him, or at any rate grown weary of his advances and
perhaps come to a new and deeper realization of some of his faults or
limitations. Feeling that their present relations are not all they
once were, he fails to recognize that it is the very nature of love to
grow sublimated as years pass and to become more and more an affair of
the soul, as it perhaps once was of the body; and that it is just at
this critical point that it normally becomes richer, riper, and more
truly devoted. The wife’s impulse to minister disinterestedly to her
husband is never so strong or pure as at the moment when the power of
giving complete physical satisfaction first begins to wane and it is
at this epoch that it can so easily and naturally be transmuted into
the impulse to serve, help, enter into closer and more sympathetic
mental relations, to know more of his inner life, struggles, ideals,
ambitions and even his business and in general to enlarge the surface
of personal contact. This is thus the psychological moment for man to
interest his mate in the affairs he has most at heart and to make her a
partner, perhaps even of some of the details, of his own vocation. This
golden opportunity, however, is brief, and if it passes unimproved it
will soon be forever too late and each mate will, ere long, find him-
or herself starting on devious ways that will lead them ever further
apart.
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