Some Reflections Upon Marriage.: With additions.Astell, Mary
Philosophy
Some Reflections Upon Marriage.: With additions.
Astell, Mary
Marriage; Women -- Social conditions
For pray, what do Men propose to themselves in Marriage? What
Qualifications do they look after in a Spouse? What will she bring? is
the first Enquiry: How many Acres? Or how much ready Coin? Not that this
is altogether an unnecessary Question, for Marriage without a
Competency, that is, not only a bare Subsistence, but even a handsome
and plentiful provision, according to the Quality and Circumstances of
the Parties, is no very comfortable Condition. They who marry for Love,
as they call it, find Time enough to repent their rash Folly, and are
not long in being convinc’d, that whatever fine Speeches might be made
in the Heat of Passion, there could be no _real Kindness_ between those
who can agree to make each other miserable. But tho’ an Estate is to be
consider’d, it should not be the _Main_, much less the only
Consideration; for Happiness does not depend on Wealth; That may be
wanting, and too often is, where This abounds. He who marries himself to
a Fortune only, must expect no other Satisfaction than that can bring
him; but let him not say that Marriage, but that his own covetous or
prodigal Temper, has made him unhappy. What Joy has that Man in all his
Plenty, who must either run from home to possess it, contrary to all the
Rules of Justice, to the Laws of _GOD_ and Man, nay, even in Opposition
to good Nature and good Breeding too, which some Men make more Account
of than of all the rest; or else be forc’d to share it with a Woman
whose Person or Temper is disagreeable, whose Presence is sufficient to
sour all his Enjoyments, so that if he has any Remains of Religion or
good Manners, he must suffer the Uneasiness of a continual Watch, to
force himself to a constrain’d Civility?
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