Some Reflections Upon Marriage.: With additions.Astell, Mary
Philosophy
Some Reflections Upon Marriage.: With additions.
Astell, Mary
Marriage; Women -- Social conditions
I Know not whether or no Women are allow’d to have Souls; if they have,
perhaps it is not prudent to provoke them too much, lest, silly as they
are, they at last recriminate, and then what polite and well-bred
Gentleman, though himself is concern’d, can forbear taking that lawful
Pleasure, which all who understand Raillery must taste, when they find
his Jests who insolently began to peck at his Neighbour, return’d with
Interest upon his own Head? And indeed Men are too Humane, too Wise, to
venture at it, did they not hope for this Effect, and expect the
Pleasure of finding their Wit turn to such Account: For if it be lawful
to pry into a Secret, this is, without doubt, the whole Design of those
fine Discourses which have been made against the Women from our great
Fore-Fathers to this present Time! Generous Man has too much Bravery, he
is too Just and too Good to assault a defenceless Enemy, and if he did
inveigh against the Women, it was only to do them Service! For since
neither his Care of their Education, his hearty Endeavours to improve
their Minds, his wholesome Precepts, nor great Example could do them
good, as his last and kindest Essay, he resolv’d to try what Contempt
would do, and chose rather to expose himself by a seeming Want of
Justice, Equity, Ingenuity and Good-nature, than suffer Women to remain
such vain and insignificant Creatures as they have hitherto been
reckon’d; and truly, Women are some Degrees beneath what I have thus far
thought them, if they do not make the best Use of his Kindness, improve
themselves, and, like Christians, return it.
Let us see then what is their Part, what must they do to make the
Matrimonial Yoke tolerable to themselves as well as pleasing to their
Lords and Masters? That the World is an empty and deceitful Thing, that
those Enjoyments which appear’d so desirable at a Distance, which rais’d
our Hopes and Expectations to such a mighty Pitch, which we so
passionately coveted, and so eagerly pursued, vanish at our first
Approach, leaving nothing behind them but the Folly of Delusion, and the
Pain of disappointed Hopes, is a common Outcry; and yet, as common as it
is, though we complain of being deceiv’d this Instant, we do not fail of
contributing to the Cheat the very next. Though in reality it is not the
World that abuses us, ’tis we abuse our selves; it is not the Emptiness
of That, but our own false Judgments, our unreasonable Desires and
Expectations that torment us; for he who exerts his whole Strength to
lift a Straw, ought not to complain of the Burden, but of his own
disproportionate Endeavour which gives him the Pain he feels. The World
affords us all the Pleasure a sound Judgment can expect from it, and
answers all those Ends and Purposes for which it was design’d; let us
expect no more than is reasonable, and then we shall not fail of our
Expectations.
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