Some Reflections Upon Marriage.: With additions.Astell, Mary
Philosophy
Some Reflections Upon Marriage.: With additions.
Astell, Mary
Marriage; Women -- Social conditions
If the Man be the Woman’s Inferior, besides all the Dangers formerly
mention’d, and those just now taken Notice of, she gives such a
Countenance to his Vices, as renders her in great measure, Partaker in
them; and, it can scarce be thought in such Circumstances, a Woman could
like the Man if she were not reconcil’d to his Faults. Is he her Equal,
and no unsuitable Match, if his Designs are fair, why don’t they Marry,
since they are so well pleas’d with each other’s Conversation, which in
this State only can be frequently and safely allow’d? Is he her Better,
and she hopes, by catching him, to make her Fortune, alas! the poor
Woman is neither acquainted with the World nor her self; she neither
knows her own Weakness, nor his Treachery, and though he gives her ever
so much Encouragement to this vain Hope, ’tis only in order to
accomplish her Ruin. To be sure the more Freedom she allows, the more
she lessens his Esteem, and that’s not likely to increase a real, though
it may a pretended Kindness; she ought to fly, if she would have him
pursue, the strictest Vertue and Reserve being the only Way to secure
him.
Religion and Reputation are so sure a Guard, such a Security to poor
defenceless Woman, that whenever a Man has ill Designs on her, he is
sure to make a Breach into one or both of these, by endeavouring either
to corrupt her Principles, to make her less strict in Devotion, or to
lessen her Value of a fair Reputation, and would persuade her, that less
than she imagines will secure her as to the next World, and that not
much Regard is to be given to the Censures of this. Or if this be too
bold at first, and will not pass with her, he has another Way to make
even her Love to Vertue contribute to its Ruin, by persuading her it
never shines as it ought, unless it is expos’d, and that she has no
Reason to boast of her Vertue unless she has try’d it. An Opinion of the
worst Consequence that may be, and the most mischievous to a Woman,
because it is calculated to feed her Vanity, and tends indeed to her
utter Ruin. For, can it be fit to rush into Temptations, when we are
taught every Day to pray against them? If the Trials of our Vertue
render it illustrious, ’tis such Trials as Heaven is pleas’d to send us,
not those of our own seeking. It holds true of both Sexes, that next to
the Divine Grace a modest Distrust of themselves is their best Security,
none being so often and so shamefully foil’d, as those who depend most
on their own Strength and Resolution.
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