Some Reflections Upon Marriage.: With additions.Astell, Mary
Philosophy
Some Reflections Upon Marriage.: With additions.
Astell, Mary
Marriage; Women -- Social conditions
Only let me beg to be inform’d, to whom we poor Fatherless Maids, and
Widows who have lost their Masters, owe Subjection? It can’t be to all
Men in general, unless all Men were agreed to give the same Commands; Do
we then fall as Strays, to the first who finds us? By the Maxims of some
Men, and the Conduct of some Women one would think so. But whoever he be
that thus happens to become our Master, if he allows us to be reasonable
Creatures, and does not meerly Compliment us with that Title, since no
Man denies our Readiness to use our Tongues, it would tend, I should
think, to our Master’s Advantage, and therefore he may please to be
advis’d to teach us to improve our Reason. But if Reason is only allow’d
us by way of Raillery, and the secret Maxim is, that we have none, or
little more than Brutes, ’tis the best way to confine us with Chain and
Block to the Chimney-Corner, which, probably, might save the Estates of
some Families and the Honour of others.
I Do not propose this to prevent a Rebellion, for Women are not so well
united as to form an Insurrection. They are for the most part wise
enough to love their Chains, and to discern how very becomingly they
fit. They think as humbly of themselves as their Masters can wish, with
respect to the other Sex, but in regard to their own, they have a Spice
of Masculine Ambition; every one would Lead, and none would Follow. Both
Sexes being too apt to Envy, and too backward in Emulating, and take
more Delight in detracting from their Neighbour’s Vertue, than in
improving their own. And therefore, as to those Women who find
themselves born for Slavery, and are so sensible of their own Meanness,
as to conclude it impossible to attain to any thing excellent, since
they are, or ought to be best acquainted with their own Strength and
Genius, She’s a Fool who would attempt their Deliverance or Improvement.
No, let them enjoy the great Honour and Felicity of their tame,
submissive and depending Temper! Let the Men applaud, and let them glory
in this wonderful Humility! Let them receive the Flatteries and Grimaces
of the other Sex, live unenvied by their own, and be as much belov’d as
one such Woman can afford to love another! Let them enjoy the Glory of
treading in the Footsteps of their Predecessors, and of having the
Prudence to avoid that audacious Attempt of soaring beyond their Sphere!
Let them Huswife or Play, Dress, and be pretty entertaining Company! Or,
which is better, relieve the Poor to ease their own Compassions, read
pious Books, say their Prayers, and go to Church, because they have been
taught and us’d to do so, without being able to give a better Reason for
their Faith and Practice! Let them not by any means aspire at being
Women of Understanding, because no Man can endure a Woman of Superior
Sense, or would treat a reasonable Woman civilly, but that he thinks he
stands on higher Ground, and, that she is so wise as to make Exceptions
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