Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in WomenEllis, Havelock
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Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in Women
Ellis, Havelock
Sex; Sex (Psychology)
I am indebted to a lady who has written largely on the woman
question, and is herself the mother of a numerous family, for
several letters in regard to the prevalence among women of sexual
coldness, a condition which she regards as by no means to be
regretted. She considers that in all her own children the sexual
impulse is very slightly developed, the boys being indifferent to
women, the girls cold toward men and with no desire to marry,
though all are intelligent and affectionate, the girls showing a
very delicate and refined kind of beauty. (A large selection of
photographs accompanied this communication.) Something of the
same tendency is said to mark the stocks from which this family
springs, and they are said to be notable for their longevity,
healthiness, and disinclination for excesses of all kinds. It is
scarcely necessary to remark that a mother, however highly
intelligent, is by no means an infallible judge as to the
presence or absence in her children of so shy, subtle, and
elusive an impulse as that of sex. At the same time I am by no
means disposed to question the existence in individuals, and even
in families or stocks, of a relatively weak sexual impulse,
which, while still enabling procreation to take place, is
accompanied by no strong attraction to the opposite sex and no
marked inclination for marriage. (Adler, op. cit., p. 168, found
such a condition transmitted from mother to daughter.) Such
persons often possess a delicate type of beauty. Even, however,
when the health is good there seems usually to be a certain lack
of vitality.
It seems to me that a state of sexual anesthesia, relative or absolute,
cannot be considered as anything but abnormal. To take even the lowest
ground, the satisfaction of the reproductive function ought to be at least
as gratifying as the evacuation of the bowels or bladder; while, if we
take, as we certainly must, higher ground than this, an act which is at
once the supreme fact and symbol of love and the supreme creative act
cannot under normal conditions be other than the most pleasurable of all
acts, or it would stand in violent opposition to all that we find in
nature.
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