Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in WomenEllis, Havelock
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Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in Women
Ellis, Havelock
Sex; Sex (Psychology)
"He now began to make the practical acquaintance of a woman--and
one who, in impulses, temper, manner, and habit of thought,
differed _toto cælo_ from the girls he had known in his old home.
Her sexual nature was ripe and developed, and it is lucky that
the engagement was of short duration, or the strain and
anticipation of that time might have been injurious to the health
of both. As usual, in his outward relations toward women, so
toward his _fiancée_, he was prepared for chaste caresses only.
This, however, did not suffice for her hot and passionate nature.
They went as far as possible short of actual coitus.
"After a few months, however, the marriage took place, and, at
first, this brought him bitter disappointment and seemed to
confirm his worst fears. He found himself quite unable to have
pleasure or satisfactory coitus; quite incapable, with any
erection that he could command, of introducing his well-developed
penis into his wife's extremely narrow and contracted vagina.
About a fortnight after the marriage, however, on his return from
their short wedding tour, he felt much stronger and copulated
with her, especially in the early mornings, so satisfactorily
that she soon found herself with child. Coitus now began to be
much more pleasurable for him, but to his wife still attended
with pain.
"After nine months of married life, the child, the only offspring
of the marriage, a healthy girl, was born. The stress of this
time, the upsetting of his wife's health, her nervous breakdown
and consequently uncertain temper, seemed for a period of nearly
two years effectually to repress any sexual desire in the
husband, and this period is perhaps the chastest of his life.
Desire seemed to be the one thing absent. The revulsion of
feeling in his wife was remarkable. The erstwhile amorous
_fiancée_, who could hardly wait until marriage to test her
lover, became now the wife and mother who hardly wished to be
touched by her husband.
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