How different children’s mental attitude may be towards the new and
unfamiliar is illustrated by some notes on a boy sent me by his mother.
This child, “though hardly ever afraid of strange people or places, was
very much frightened as a baby _of familiar things seen after an
interval_”. Thus “at ten months he was excessively frightened on
returning to his nursery after a month’s absence. On this occasion he
screamed violently if his nurse left his side for a moment for some
hours after he got home, whereas he had not in the least objected to
being installed in a strange nursery.” The mother adds that “at thirteen
months, his memory having grown stronger, he was very much pleased at
coming to his home after being away a fortnight”. This case looks
puzzling enough at first, and seems to contradict the laws of infant
psychology. Perhaps the child’s partial recognition was accompanied by a
sense of the uncanny, like that which we experience when a place seems
familiar to us though we have no clear recollection of having seen it
before.
What applies to places applies also to persons: a sudden change of
customary human surroundings by the arrival of a stranger on the scene
is apt to trouble the child.
At first all faces seem alike for the child. Later on unfamiliar faces
excite something like a grave inquisitorial scrutiny. Yet, for the first
three months, there is no distinct manifestation of a fear of strangers.
It is only later, when attachment to human belongings has been
developed, that the approach of a stranger, especially if accompanied by
a proposal to take the child, calls forth clear signs of displeasure and
the shrinking away of fear. Preyer gives the sixth and seventh months as
the date at which his boy began to cry at the sight of a strange face.
In one set of notes sent me it was remarked that a child of four and a
half months would cry on being nursed by a stranger. To be nursed by a
stranger, however, is to have the whole baby-world revolutionised;
little wonder then that it should bring the feeling of strangeness and
homelessness.
Here, too, curious differences soon begin to disclose themselves, some
children being decidedly more sociable towards strangers than others. It
would be curious to compare the age at which children begin to take
kindly to them. Preyer gives nineteen months as the date at which his
boy surmounted his timidity; but it is probable that the transition
occurs at very different dates in the case of different children.[138]
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Footnote 138:
This true fear of strangers must be distinguished from the later
shyness, which, though akin to it, is a more complex feeling.
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