In this instinct of companionship there is involved a vague inarticulate
sympathy. Just as the attached dog may be said to have in a dim fashion
a feeling of oneness with its master, so the child. The intenser
realisation of this oneness comes in the case of the dog and of the
child alike after separation. The wild caressing leaps of the quadruped
are matched by the warm embracings of the little biped. Only that here,
too, we see in the child traces of a deeper human consciousness. A girl
of thirteen months was separated from her mother during six weeks. On
the mother’s return she was speechless, and for some time could not bear
to leave her restored companion for a minute. The little girl M. when
nearly seventeen months old received her father after only five days’
absence with special marks of tenderness, rushing up to him, smoothing
and stroking his face and giving him all the toys in the room.
This sense of joining on one’s existence to another’s is not sympathy in
its highest form, that is, a conscious realisation of another’s
feelings, but it is a kind of sympathy after all, and may grow into
something better. This we may see in the return of the childish heart to
its resting place after the estrangement introduced by ‘naughtiness’.
The relenting after passion, the reconciliation after punishment, are
these not the experiences which help to raise the dumb animal sympathy
of the first months into a true human sense of fellowship? But this part
of the development of sympathy belongs to another chapter.
Sympathy, it has been said, is a kind of imitation, and this is
strikingly illustrated in its early forms. A dog will howl piteously in
response to another dog’s howl: similarly a child of nine and a half
months has been known to cry violently when his mother or father
pretended to cry.
One curious manifestation of this early imitative sympathy is the
impulse to do what the mother does and to be what she is. Much of early
imitative play shows this tendency. It is more than a cold distant
copying of another’s doings: it is full of the warmth of attachment, and
it is entered on as a way of getting nearer to the object of attachment.
Out of this, too, there springs the germ of a higher sympathy. It will
be remembered that Laura Bridgman bound the eyes of her doll with a
bandage similar to the one she herself wore. Through this sharing in her
own experience the doll became more a part of herself. Conversely, a
child, on finding that her mother’s head ached, began imitatively to
make-believe that her own head was hurt. Sympathy rests on community of
experience, and it is a curious fact that a child, before he can fully
sympathise with another’s trouble and make it his own by the sympathetic
process itself, should thus try by a kind of childish acting to realise
this community of experience.
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