From this imitative acting of another’s trouble, so as to share in it,
there is but a step to a direct sympathetic apprehension of it. How
early a genuine manifestation of concern about another’s suffering
begins to show itself it is almost impossible to say. Children probably
differ greatly in this respect. I have, however, one case which is so
curious that I cannot forbear to quote it. It reaches me, I may say, by
a thoroughly trustworthy channel.
A baby aged one year and two months was crawling on the floor. An elder
sister, Katherine, aged six, who was working at a wool mat could not get
on very well and began to cry. Baby looked up and grunted, ‘on! on!’ and
kept drawing its fingers down its own cheeks. Here the aunt called Miss
Katherine’s attention to baby, a device which merely caused a fresh
outburst of tears; whereupon baby proceeded to hitch itself along to
Katherine with many repetitions of the grunts and the mimetic
finger-movements. Katherine, fairly overcome by this, took baby to her
and smiled; at which baby began to clap its hands and to crow, tracing
this time the course of the tears down its sister’s cheeks.
This pretty nursery-picture certainly seems to illustrate a rudiment of
genuine fellow-feeling. Similarly it is hard not to recognise the signs
of a sincere concern when a child of two runs spontaneously and kisses
the place that is hurt, even though it is not to be doubted that the
graceful action has been learnt through imitation.
Very sweet and sacred to the mother are the first clear indications of
the child’s concern for herself. These are sporadic, springing up
rarely, and sometimes, as it looks to us, capriciously. Illness, and
temporary removal are a common occasion for the appearance of a deeper
tenderness in the young heart. A little boy of three spontaneously
brought his story-book to his mother when she lay in bed ill; and the
same child used to follow her about after her recovery with all the
devotion of a little knight.
Valuable and entertaining, too, are the first attempts of the child at
consolation. A little German girl aged two and a half who had just lost
her brother seemed very indifferent for some days. She then began to
reflect and to ask about her playmate. On seeing her mother’s distress
she proceeded in truly childish fashion to comfort her; ‘Never mind,
mamma, you will get a better boy. He _was_ a ragamuffin’ (‘Er _war_ ein
Lump’). The co-existence of an almost barbarous indifference for the
dead brother with practical sympathy for the living mother is
characteristic here.[172]
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Footnote 172:
A pretty example of such childish consolation is given by P. Lombroso,
_op. cit._, p. 94.
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