In inquiring into this matter we must begin by drawing a distinction.
There is first the attitude of a child towards the governor, the parent
or other guardian, and there is his attitude towards law as such. These
are by no means the same thing, and a child of three or four begins to
illustrate the distinction. He may seem to be lawless, opposed to the
very idea of government, when in reality he is merely objecting to a
particular ruler, and the kind of rule (or as the child would say,
misrule) which he is carrying out.
Let us look a little into the non-compliant, disobedient attitude of
children. As we have seen, their very liveliness, the abundance of their
vigorous impulses, brings them into conflict with others’ wills. The
ruler, more particularly, is a great and continual source of crossings
and checkings. The child has his natural wishes and propensities. He is
full of fun, bent on his harmless tricks, and the mother has to talk
seriously to him about being naughty. How can we wonder at his disliking
the constraint? He has a number of inconvenient, active impulses, such
as putting things in disorder, playing with water, and so forth. As we
all know, he has a duck-like fondness for dirty puddles. Civilisation,
which wills that a child should be nicely dressed and clean, intervenes
in the shape of the nurse and soon puts a stop to this mode of
diversion. The tyro in submission, if sound in brain and limb, kicks
against the restraint, yells, slaps the nurse, and so forth.
Such collisions are perfectly normal in the first years of life. We
should not care to see a child give up his inclinations at another’s
bidding without some little show of resistance. These conflicts are
frequent and sharp in proportion to the sanity and vigour of the child.
The best children, best from a biological point of view, have, I think,
most of the rebel in them. Not infrequently these resistances of young
will to old will are accompanied by more emphatic protests in the shape
of slapping, pushing, and even biting. The ridiculous inequality in
bodily powers, however, saves, or ought to save, the contest from
becoming a serious physical struggle. The resistance where superior
force is used can only resolve itself into a helpless protest, a vain
shrieking or other utterance of checked and baffled impulse.
If instead of physical compulsion authority is asserted in the shape of
a highly disagreeable command, a child, before obedience has grown into
a habit, will be likely to disobey. If the nurse, instead of pulling the
mite away from the puddle, bids him come away, he may assert himself in
an eloquent ‘I won’t,’ or less bluntly, ‘I can’t come yet’. If he is
very much in love with the puddle, and has a stout heart, he probably
embarks on a tussle of words, in which ‘I won’t,’ or as the child will
significantly put it ‘I mustn’t,’ is bandied with ‘you must!’ the nurse
having at length to abandon the ‘moral’ method and to resort after all
to physical compulsion.
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