question is curious as suggesting that the child may have envisaged his
silent communications to the far-off King as a letter. In any case, it
showed painstaking and the wish not to offend by slovenliness of
address.
Not only do children thus of themselves extend the scope and empire of
rule, they show a disposition to make rules for themselves. If a child
that is told to do a thing on a single occasion only is found repeating
the action on other occasions, this seems to show the germ of a
law-making impulse. A little boy of two years one month was once told to
give a lot of old toys to the children of the gardener. Some time after,
on receiving some new toys, he put away his old ones as before for the
less fortunate children. Every careful observer of children knows that
they are apt to proceed this way, to erect particular actions and
suggestions into precedents. This tendency gives something of the
amusing priggishness to the ways of childhood.
There is little doubt, I think, that this respect for proper orderly
behaviour, for precedent and general rule, forms a vital element in the
child’s submission to parental law. In fixing our attention on
occasional acts of disobedience and lawlessness we are apt to overlook
the ease, the absence of friction with which normal children, if only
decently trained, fall in with the larger part of our observances and
ordinances.
That the instinct for order does assist moral discipline may be seen in
the fact that children are apt to pay enormous deference to our rules.
Nothing is more suggestive here than the talk of children among
themselves, the emphasis they are wont to lay on the ‘must’ and ‘must
not’. The truth is that children have a tremendous belief in law: a rule
is apt to present itself to their imagination as a thing supremely
sacred and awful before which it prostrates itself.
This recognition of the absolute imperativeness of a rule properly laid
down by the recognised authority is seen in children’s jealous
insistence on the observance of the rule in their own case and in that
of others. As has been observed by Preyer a child of two years eight
months will follow out the prohibitions of the mother when he falls into
other hands, sternly protesting, for example, against the nurse giving
him the forbidden knife at table. Very proper children rather like to
instruct their aunts and other ignorant persons as to the right way of
dealing with them, and will rejoice in the opportunity of setting them
right even when it means a deprivation for themselves. The self-denying
ordinance: ‘Mamma doesn’t let me have many sweets,’ is by no means
beyond the powers of such a child. One can see here, no doubt, traces of
a childish sense of self-importance, a feeling of the much-waited-on
little sovereign for what befits his supreme worth. Yet, allowing for
such elements, there seems to me to be in this behaviour a residue of
genuine respect for parental law.
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