This subject of childish ceremonial is a curious one, and deserves a
more careful study. It is hardly less interesting than the origin and
survival of adult ceremonial, as elucidated by Mr. Herbert Spencer. The
respect for orderly procedure on all serious occasions, and especially
at church, is as exacting as that of any savage tribe. _Punch_
illustrated this some years ago by a picture of a little girl asking her
mamma if Mr. So and So was not a very wicked man, because he didn’t
“smell his hat” when he came into his pew.
This jealous regard for ceremony and the proprieties of behaviour is
seen in the enforcement of rules of politeness by children who will
extend them far beyond the scope intended by the parent. A delightful
instance of this fell under my own observation, as I was walking on
Hampstead Heath. It was a spring day, and the fat buds of the chestnuts
were bursting into magnificent green plumes. Two well-dressed ‘misses,’
aged, I should say, about nine and eleven, were taking their correct
morning walk. The elder called the attention of the younger to one of
the trees, pointing to it. The younger exclaimed in a highly shocked
tone: “Oh, Maud (or was it ‘Mabel’?), you know you _shouldn’t_ point!”
The notion of perpetrating a rudeness on the chestnut tree was funny
enough. But the incident is instructive as illustrating the childish
tendency to stretch and generalise rules to the utmost.
The domain of prayer well illustrates the same tendency. The child
envisages God as a very, very grand person, and naturally, therefore,
extends to him all the courtesies he knows of. Thus he must be addressed
politely with the due forms ‘Please,’ ‘If you please,’ and so forth. The
German child shrinks from using the familiar form ‘Du’ in his prayers.
As one maiden of seven well put it in reply to a question why she used
‘Sie’ in her prayers: “Ich werde doch den lieben Gott nicht Du nennen:
ich kenne ihn ja gar nicht”. Again, a child feels that he must not worry
or bore God (children generally find out that some people look on them
as bores), or treat him with any kind of disrespect. C. objected to his
sister’s remaining so long at her prayers, apparently on the ground
that, as God knew what she had to say, her much talking would be likely
to bore him. An American boy of four on one occasion refused to say his
prayers, explaining, “Why, they’re old. God has heard them so many times
that they are old to him too. Why, he knows them as well as I do
myself.” On the other hand, God must not be kept waiting. “Oh, mamma,”
said a little boy of three years eight months (the same that was so
insistent about the kissing and hand-shaking), “how long you have kept
me awake for you; God has been wondering so whenever I was going to say
my prayers.” All the words must be nicely said to him. A little boy,
aged four and three-quarter years, once stopped in the middle of a
prayer and asked his mother: “Oh! how do you spell that word?” The
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