What is beyond doubt is that the slovenly discipline—if indeed
discipline it is to be called—which consists in alternations of gushing
fondness with almost savage severity, or fits of government and
restraint interpolated between long periods of neglect and _laisser
faire_, is precisely what develops the rebellious and law-resisting
propensities. But discipline can be bad without being a stupid pretence.
Everything in the shape of inconsistency, saying one thing at one time,
another thing at another, or treating one child in one fashion, another
in another, tends to undermine the pillars of authority. Young eyes are
quick to note these little contradictions, and they sorely resent them.
It is astonishing how careless disciplinarians can show themselves
before these astute little critics. It is the commonest thing to tell a
child to behave like his elders, forgetting that this, if indeed a rule
at all, can only be one of very limited application. Here is a
suggestive example of the effect of this sort of teaching sent me by a
mother. “At three and a half, when some visitors were present, she was
told not to talk at dinner-time. ‘Why me no talk? Papa talks.’ ‘Yes, but
papa is grown up, and you are only a little girl; you can’t do just like
grown-up people.’ She was silent for some time, but when I told her ten
minutes later to sit nicely with her hands in her lap like her cousins,
she replied, with a very humorous smile, ‘Me tan’t (can’t) sit like
grown-up people, me is only a little girl’.”
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