“You mean what would they do with me? They would drive me into my
grave, I think,” she answered. “Woman’s horizon has become so enlarged
that no mother can tell what her next daughter may not wish to do. I
understand, though, that you are referring simply to schools. To begin
with, I take for granted you will agree that American parents, who
insist on sending their boys to a public school, very often hesitate or
decline point-blank to send their girls.”
“Precisely. And we are forthwith confronted by the question whether
they are justified in so doing.”
Barbara looked meditative for a moment, then she said: “I am quite
aware there is no logical reason why girls should not be treated in the
same way, and yet as a matter of fact I am not at all sure, patriotism
and logic to the contrary notwithstanding, I should send a daughter to
a public school unless I were convinced, from personal examination,
that she would have neither a vulgar teacher nor vulgar associates.
Manners mean so much to a woman, and by manners I refer chiefly to
those nice perceptions of everything which stamp a lady, and which you
can no more describe than you can describe the perfume of the violet.
The objection to the public schools for a girl is that the unwritten
constitution of this country declared years ago that every woman was a
born lady, and that manners and nice perceptions were in the national
blood, and required no cultivation for their production. Latterly, a
good many people interested in educational matters have discovered
the fallacy of this point of view; so that when the name of a woman
to act as the head of a college or other first-class institution for
girls is brought forward to-day, the first question asked is, ‘Is she
a lady?’ Ten years ago mental acquirements would have been regarded
as sufficient, and the questioner silenced with the severe answer
that every American woman is a lady. The public school authorities
are still harping too much on the original fallacy, or rather the
new point of view has not spread sufficiently to cause the average
American school-teacher to suspect that her manners might be improved
and her sensibilities refined. There, that sounds like treason to the
principles of democracy, yet you know I am at heart a patriot.”
“And yet to bring up boys on a common basis and separate the girls by
class education seems like a contradiction of terms,” I said.
“I am confident--at least if we as a nation really do believe in
obliterating class distinctions--that it won’t be long before those
who control the public schools recognize more universally the value
of manners, and of the other traits which distinguish the woman of
breeding from the woman who has none,” said Barbara. “When that time
comes the well-to-do American mother will have no more reason for not
sending her daughters to a public school than her sons. As it is, they
should send them oftener than they do.”
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