Artemus Ward described a charming woman as “born to make hash of men’s
buzzoms”—which, though comprehensive, does not lead us very far, and
sounds perilously near being a cooking recipe. Oscar Wilde said: “All
charming people, I fancy, are spoiled. It is the secret of their
attraction”—which, personally, I disbelieve absolutely. Spoiled people
manage to get their own way, it is true, since the majority of us are so
faint‐hearted that we find it easier to offer ourselves in sacrifice than
play our part in a scène à faire. But the effect of a metaphorical foot on
one’s neck is by no means a satisfying sensation, though we may endure it
heroically. Longfellow described a charming woman as “when she passed it
seemed like the ceasing of exquisite music,” and this, though pleasing to
the ear, seems to say so much and mean as little as any modern drawing‐
room ballad. Shakespeare, perhaps, came nearer giving us a word‐picture of
Charm when he wrote: “She told him stories to delight his ear; she showed
him favours to allure his eye”; but even that description does not convey
to us much more than the effort of a cook to fascinate a policeman. Charm
is something more subtle than the ability to tell a smoking‐room story in
a drawing‐room way and exhibit the best “points” Nature has given us with
a fine semblance of doing so unconsciously. Perhaps the Dictionary gives
the best definition when it explains Charm as being “something possessing
occult power or influence.” Occultism seems the easiest explanation of the
personal “sway” which some outwardly unattractive person wields over the
most unlikely people, people who, by all reason and logic, policy and
prudence, ought not to be thus fascinated. Love is easier to explain than
Charm; or rather, perhaps, I ought to add, than that emotion which so
often passes muster for Love, that emotion which, though it often ends in
marriage, or divorce, or a six‐months’ despair, may arise from no more
solid foundation than solitude, a moonlight night, and the sex‐appeal of
two people in a “romantic” mood. But just as Time is the supreme test of
Love, so it is also the supreme test of Charm. A woman who is as charming
at forty‐nine as she was, say, at thirty, must necessarily possess
something inherent in her nature, not recognizable as “beauty” perchance,
which leads men nevertheless—and, what is infinitely more difficult, other
_women—_ by a single hair. Charm, indeed, has nothing whatever to do with
either beauty or youth. Its genius lies in being able to delude the world
that it is both beautiful as well as youthful, no matter what adverse
criticism artists may indulge in, nor how many cold, ugly facts Father
Time may bring forward to dispel the illusion. Real Charm rises superior
to both. It is a quality which, because it cannot be analysed, cannot
therefore be destroyed. So it is easier to call it “Occult,” which the
Dictionary informs us is a power “hidden from the eye and understanding.”
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