The book of the child: An attempt to set down what is in the mind of childrenHow, F. D. (Frederick Douglas)
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The book of the child: An attempt to set down what is in the mind of children
How, F. D. (Frederick Douglas)
Child psychology
More than a century later, in 1748, there appeared another anonymous
publication on the subject. This had for its title “Dialogues on the
Passions, Habits, and Affections peculiar to Children.” The writer
was imbued with ideas so far in advance of his time that fear of
ridicule may have caused him to conceal his name. His sentiments
about the proper treatment of children are very much those at which
most people have arrived to-day, when the subject has received much
prominent attention for a quarter of a century. He combats the
prevailing opinion of that date that the right way to deal with
children is by a system of formal repression and severity. Thus he
makes one of his characters say, “I think it necessary that Children
should be kept at some distance. They are apt to grow pert, sawcy,
and ungovernable if we make too free with them, or permit them the
full liberty of speech in our Company.” To this the reply is made:
“To discover the Diseases of the mind ought to be and must be your
principal study. But in this you will never be successful if you set
out with a practice which teaches them to conceal every bad symptom.”
[Sidenote: A Phase of Lying.]
The truth contained in these words is very generally recognised
nowadays. If a parent wants to make a child untruthful it can be
done at once by causing fear, under the guise perhaps of respect,
to be the ruling sentiment. Children are only too ready to learn!
“As soon as they are born they go astray and speak lies.” It is a
tendency of childhood in every class. A gentleman whose work consists
in preparing little boys for the great public schools once said that
almost every small boy passes through a phase of lying. The mistress
of a little village school declared not long ago that there was only
one child there upon whose word she could absolutely rely.
It follows then that those in charge of children, and especially the
parents, should note the advice of the writer of the Dialogues. He
insists again and again upon the evil effects of fear.
[Sidenote: Children Susceptible of Fear.]
“Fear,” he says, “I think is the first Passion which we can
distinctly trace in the Mind of a Child. They are susceptible of it
almost sooner than they can conceive the Nature of Danger; and it
is the Misfortune of Numbers that the Nurses find this so easily
improved to their purposes that Children find the effects of this
passion as long as they live.”
Again, “As to Dread of Punishment which I have observed to be the
lowest and most grovelling kind of Fear, you must by gentle usage
remove it from the apprehension of such as have imbibed it from harsh
Parents or tyrannical Nurses.”
It is exceedingly remarkable to find a writer in the middle of the
eighteenth century who had studied children to such purpose, and who
ventured to advance opinions such as those quoted above.
[Sidenote: Literature of the last Half Century.]
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