The Christian Home: As it is in the Sphere of Nature and the Church; Showing the Mission, Duties, Influences, Habits, and Responsibilities of Home, its Education, Government, and Discipline; with Hints on "Match Making," and the Relation of Parents to the Marriage Choice of their Children; together with a consideration of the Tests in the Selection of a Companion, Etc.Philips, Samuel
Religion
The Christian Home: As it is in the Sphere of Nature and the Church; Showing the Mission, Duties, Influences, Habits, and Responsibilities of Home, its Education, Government, and Discipline; with Hints on "Match Making," and the Relation of Parents to the Marriage Choice of their Children; together with a consideration of the Tests in the Selection of a Companion, Etc.
Philips, Samuel
Family; Home; Marriage; Parent and child
In this way the misdirected love and cruel pride of mothers often destroy
the health and beauty of their children. They cause a sickly and dwarfish
growth by too much confinement and mental taxation, by a too rigid choice
of diet, by daily, uncalled for decoctions of medicine, and by fitting the
body in a dress as the Chinese do their children's feet in shoes; in a
word, by making the entire nursery life too artificial, and substituting
the laws of art for those of nature. The result must be a delicate,
artificial constitution, too fragile for the trials and duties of life. The
body of your child has not the blooming, blushing form of nature, but the
cold marble cast of a statue; and it imprints itself upon the disposition,
the spirit, the mental faculties. It shows itself in peevishness, in
imbecility, in such a passive, slavish subjection to the rules and
interests of mere artificial life, as to admit no hope almost of spiritual
progression.
The nursery is also intellectual. The mind of your child is unfolding as
well as its body; and hence the former, as well as the latter, demands the
nursery. How much of the mental vigor and attainments of children depend
upon the prudent management of the nursery. Hence parents should
"Exert a prudent care
To feed our infant minds with proper fare;
And wisely store the nursery by degrees
With wholesome learning, yet acquired with ease.
And thus well-tutored only while we share
A mother's lectures and a nurse's care."
Parents may abuse the minds of their children in the nursery, either by
total neglect, or by immature education, by too early training and too
close confinement to books at a very early age, thus taxing the mind beyond
its capacities. This is often the case when children betray great precocity
of intellect; and the pride of the parent seeks to gratify itself through
the supposed gift of the child. In this way parents often reduce their
children to hopeless mental imbecility.
Again, parents often injure the minds of their children by their misguided
efforts to train the mind. Even in training them to speak, how imprudent
they are in calling words and giving ideas in mutilated language. It is
just as easy to teach children to speak correctly, and to call all things
by their proper names, as to abuse their vernacular tongue. Such
mutilations are impediments to the growth of the intellect. The child must
afterwards be taught to undo what it was taught to do and say in the
nursery. But as this subject will be fully considered in the chapter on
Home Education, we shall refrain from further comment here.
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