The Christian Home: As it is in the Sphere of Nature and the Church; Showing the Mission, Duties, Influences, Habits, and Responsibilities of Home, its Education, Government, and Discipline; with Hints on "Match Making," and the Relation of Parents to the Marriage Choice of their Children; together with a consideration of the Tests in the Selection of a Companion, Etc.Philips, Samuel
Religion
The Christian Home: As it is in the Sphere of Nature and the Church; Showing the Mission, Duties, Influences, Habits, and Responsibilities of Home, its Education, Government, and Discipline; with Hints on "Match Making," and the Relation of Parents to the Marriage Choice of their Children; together with a consideration of the Tests in the Selection of a Companion, Etc.
Philips, Samuel
Family; Home; Marriage; Parent and child
It is, therefore, only when the home-sympathy, as a feeling and a faculty,
is carried out and acted upon according to its instinctive impulses, that
it becomes an effective agent of good. This, however, is not always
done. Often it is neutralized by not being permitted to express itself
according to the laws of its own operation. Many members have acute
feelings and great powers of sympathy, but it exists in them only as
feeling, only as a stimulus, a sentiment, and is, therefore, nothing but
home-sentimentalism,--a disease of home-sympathy. Thus, for instance,
parents may weep over the wickedness of their children, and the pious wife
may lament the impenitence of her husband; but if they go no further,
their sympathy is really false, because it does not share in and feel the
state of others, nor seek to alleviate their impending miseries. The
home-sympathy is not simply the look of the priest and Levite upon the
half-dead traveler, but also the help of the good Samaritan. Its language
is not only, "Be ye clothed and fed," but also, "I will clothe and feed
thee." The mere indulgence in the feeling of sympathy is but to harden the
heart in the end. Such were the sympathies of Rosseau,--mere heart-stimuli,
without legitimate deeds and objective force, existing only as a love-sick
sentiment. And this was both the theme of his eloquence and the cause of
his misery. Such, too, were the sympathies of Robespierre,--a mere
ebullition of disembodied sentiment, borne up like a floating bubble upon
muddy waters, and exploding upon the slightest depression.
But, on the other hand, when home-sympathy is issued in faithful action as
its emotions prompt, it becomes an efficient agent in the happiness and
peace of the family. It not only gives eloquence to the tongue, tears to
the eye, but faithfulness to the life. It serves as a key-note to the mind
and heart, framing the home-energy, revealing to us our real state, and
prompting, by the instinct of love, the means for our highest welfare.
"How glows the joyous parent to descry,
A guileless bosom true to sympathy!
A long lost friend, or hapless child restored,
Smiles at his blazing hearth and social board;
Warm from his heart the tears of rapture flow,
And virtue triumphs o'er remembered woe!"
Sympathy is excited and measured by the power of natural affection. In
proportion to the strength of the latter will be the attractive power of
the former. That soothing voice which calms the wailing-infant; that fond
bosom from which the child draws its subsistence, and on which it pillows
its weary head; that smile which throws a sunshine around its existence,
and all those acts of kindness administered by the hand of love, draw the
child instinctively to the parent's heart, and blend in sweetest union its
very being with theirs.
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