The question then arises: Is it better to suppress the sexuality of
the introvert altogether, since the only kind he is capable of has an
air of perverseness about it, is perhaps auto-erotic, or concentrated
on the forepleasure, or wrong in some other way? Certainly you can’t
demand of a child what you demand of an adult; and neither can you
demand of an undeveloped function what you demand of one fully matured.
On the other hand the repression of the sexual instinct may be a
dangerous thing, in this connection the dream of an introvert is
illuminating. He was a man highly developed along mental lines, a man,
in fact, of some prominence; but he experienced great difficulty in
his sexuality. It was characterized as over-impulsive and more or less
passive. He wanted to play a more or less feminine part toward the
women.
Because of his high integrity he felt that this was wrong, and so
attempted to suppress his sexuality altogether. Then he developed
symptoms; strange feelings in his head, a sense of weakness in his
legs. He had the following dream:
He and his wife were at Coney Island, going about with three people
of a cruder type. Two of these were men, and one a woman. The woman
fainted on the street, and no one knew what to do for her. A man then
rushed out of the building, took hold of her, and began an infantile
stimulation. She revived at once.
The dream is easily understood. He and his wife stood for the higher
side of himself, the developed or introverted side; the three low-brows
and rough-necks were the undeveloped side. Coney Island suggests some
attempt at expressing the lower and undeveloped side. Since this
undeveloped side was the extraverted, or sexual, the two men and the
woman represented this side; and the woman suggests that part of his
sexuality which is more or less feminine and passive.
She faints. That is, he develops the symptoms. The man who rushes out
to help he connected with an uncle of his who was noted for his common
sense. In other words, his common sense tells him: Cure her by any
means possible. See, if I do this for her, she revives. Better that
than to be sick, to develop symptoms.
No code of morality could have helped this man. He had as an introvert
to realize and accept the fact that his sexuality was still childish,
and to realize also that he had to begin with it at the point where it
actually was if he ever wanted to develop it to something higher and
better.
I do not mean to imply here that all introverts are so infantile in
their sexuality. There are those introverts who began early to develop
this side also, and have reached a fair maturity. However, it is more
often the other way round.
But if there is this distinction to be made, there are yet others to
show how individual a matter sexuality may be.
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