Conversation is an art in which a man has all mankind for his
competitors, for it is that which all are practising every day while
they live. Our habit of thought,—take men as they rise,—is not
satisfying; in the common experience, I fear, it is poor and squalid.
The success which will content them, is, a bargain, a lucrative
employment, an advantage gained over a competitor, a marriage, a
patrimony, a legacy, and the like. With these objects, their
conversation deals with surfaces: politics, trade, personal defects,
exaggerated bad news, and the rain. This is forlorn, and they feel sore
and sensitive. Now, if one comes who can illuminate this dark house
with thoughts, show them their native riches, what gifts they have, how
indispensable each is, what magical powers over nature and men; what
access to poetry, religion, and the powers which constitute character;
he wakes in them the feeling of worth, his suggestions require new ways
of living, new books, new men, new arts and sciences,—then we come out
of our egg-shell existence into the great dome, and see the zenith over
and the nadir under us. Instead of the tanks and buckets of knowledge
to which we are daily confined, we come down to the shore of the sea,
and dip our hands in its miraculous waves. ’Tis wonderful the effect on
the company. They are not the men they were. They have all been to
California, and all have come back millionnaires. There is no book and
no pleasure in life comparable to it. Ask what is best in our
experience, and we shall say, a few pieces of plain-dealing with wise
people. Our conversation once and again has apprised us that we belong
to better circles than we have yet beheld; that a mental power invites
us, whose generalizations are more worth for joy and for effect than
anything that is now called philosophy or literature. In excited
conversation, we have glimpses of the Universe, hints of power native to
the soul, far-darting lights and shadows of an Andes landscape, such as
we can hardly attain in lone meditation. Here are oracles sometimes
profusely given, to which the memory goes back in barren hours.
Add the consent of will and temperament, and there exists the covenant
of friendship. Our chief want in life, is, somebody who shall make us
do what we can. This is the service of a friend. With him we are easily
great. There is a sublime attraction in him to whatever virtue is in
us. How he flings wide the doors of existence! What questions we ask
of him! what an understanding we have! how few words are needed! It is
the only real society. An Eastern poet, Ali Ben Abu Taleb, writes with
sad truth,—
"He who has a thousand friends has not a friend to spare,
And he who has one enemy shall meet him everywhere."
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