The Desultory Man: Collection of Ancient and Modern British Novels and Romances. Vol. CXLVII.James, G. P. R. (George Payne Rainsford)
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The Desultory Man: Collection of Ancient and Modern British Novels and Romances. Vol. CXLVII.
James, G. P. R. (George Payne Rainsford)
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There are two words wanting in French which an Englishman can scarcely
do without, _comfort_ and _home_. The hiatus is not alone in the
language, the idea is wanting. Speak to a Frenchman of pleasure, he
can understand you--of gaiety, amusement, dissipation, he has no
difficulty: but talk to him of _comfort_, and explain it how you will,
you can never make it intelligible to him. In like manner, he will
comprehend everything that can be said on the theatre, the
coffee-house, the club, the court, or the exchange; but _home_--there
is no such thing. _Chez-soi_ is not the word: _intérieur_ comes nearer
to it, for that particularises, but still it is not home--home, where
all the affections of domestic life, all the kindly feelings of the
heart, all the bright weaknesses of an immortal spirit clad in
clay--where all, all the rays of life centre, like a gleam of sunshine
breaking through a cloud, and lighting up one spot in the landscape
while all the rest is wrapt in shadow. We may carry ambition, pride,
vengeance, hatred, avarice, about with us in the world; but every
gentler feeling is for _home_: and miserable is he who finds no such
resting-place in the wide desert of human existence.
I speak not of all Frenchmen. I have met some who had the feeling in
their hearts, and scarcely knew what it meant. They had formed
themselves a home, but had not a name for it. But these are the
accidents, and in the generality of French families it is not, nor it
cannot be so.
Marriage in France is one of the most extraordinary things that ever
was invented. It is a state into which men enter, seemingly, from a
principle of inevitable necessity--the _besoin de se marier_, or else
who would engage their fate to that of a person whose mind, education,
and disposition, is generally wholly unknown to them? The first
principle of a woman's education all over the world is deceit. She is
taught, and wisely taught, to conceal what she feels. But in France
they try to teach her not to feel it at all. Educated in the greatest
retirement, watched with the most jealous suspicion, as soon as a
favourable opportunity presents itself, she is brought forward to show
off all her accomplishments, before a man, who is destined for her
husband, and is bidden to assume his tastes, and coincide in his
opinions. Little affectation, however; is necessary. It is all a
matter of convention. The one party wishes for a wife, and marries
without knowing anything about her; the other wishes for liberty, and
is married without caring to whom. This is the great change in a
Frenchwoman's life. While single she is guarded, and restrained in
everything; each action each word, each look is regulated; but the
moment she is married all is freedom, gaiety, and dissipation. From a
caterpillar she becomes a butterfly, and flutters on amongst the
multitude to be chased by every grown child that sees her. These are
not the materials for happiness! But this is not all. Every
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