The East India Vade-Mecum, Volume 1 (of 2): or, complete guide to gentlemen intended for the civil, military, or naval service of the East India Company.Williamson, Thomas
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The East India Vade-Mecum, Volume 1 (of 2): or, complete guide to gentlemen intended for the civil, military, or naval service of the East India Company.
Williamson, Thomas
India -- Social life and customs -- 19th century -- Handbooks, manuals, etc.
‘It is a well-known circumstance, that no Mussulman, or Mussulmanee,
ever thinks of dancing for the pleasure of the thing. The _meerassen_,
(a set of women whose province it is,) are called in on particular
occasions: but, among people of high rank, it is usual to have a number
of slave-girls, termed _gaeen_,[8] taught music and dancing, who are
always ready to amuse the family.
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Footnote 8:
Probably from _gownah_, (_i.e._ to sing).
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‘Europeans may, on such a subject, be surprized with the _singular_
sound of ‘_the wife_’ so often repeated, so impressed as they
generally are with the idea of a Mussulman and his seraglio of
‘_wives_.’ However, it will be found, by such as will take the trouble
of investigation, that those travellers, whose relations have given
rise to such erroneous ideas, have deceived themselves, by mistaking
individual instances for general traits; thus holding up the picture
of one man as the exact portraiture of a nation. We are not to
suppose, that it is common for men to avail themselves of the example
of their prophet, or the option he has allowed to others of having
_four wives_. In fact, not one man in twenty, of the class now under
consideration, has more than one wife, nor one in five hundred more
than two. Even the permission given by Mahomed is not free from
restriction; for his words are, ‘Marry, O ye people, whomsoever
pleases you among women, even to two, three, or four: but, if ye
apprehend that you cannot do them justice, be content with one.’ This
considerate advice of the prophet however would probably carry but
small weight, if there did not exist other obstacles, not so easily
surmounted; for it frequently forms a clause in the _quballa_,[9] (or
_cabooleat_,) in a marriage contract, that the husband shall not take
a second wife: besides, no parent, possessed of a proper regard for
his child, would willingly place her in that degraded situation a
second wife is always considered to be; and subjected, as she is, to
the entire control of the first; who, it may be supposed, must, from
various motives, in general prove a harsh and unpleasant mistress.
Neither ought we to be led away by the idea that any influence of the
husband will prevent such consequences; for the wives of Hindostan,
however problematical it may sound, will be found to have, in reality,
even more power than those of Europe. It is true, a husband is allowed
by law the privilege of divorcing his wife whenever displeased with
her conduct; and this, on the first glance, appears to leave no
alternative but implicit obedience in the woman: but it will be found
otherwise, in fact; for the relations of the bride take care, in the
marriage-settlement, that the _mahir_, or marriage-portion, payable in
case of separation, shall be fixed at an amount far exceeding the
circumstances of the husband to pay; which, of course, proves an
effectual check to a divorcement. In addition to this, general opinion
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