The East India Vade-Mecum, Volume 1 (of 2): or, complete guide to gentlemen intended for the civil, military, or naval service of the East India Company.Williamson, Thomas
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The East India Vade-Mecum, Volume 1 (of 2): or, complete guide to gentlemen intended for the civil, military, or naval service of the East India Company.
Williamson, Thomas
India -- Social life and customs -- 19th century -- Handbooks, manuals, etc.
strongly opposes a separation, though not a second marriage, where
there exists no sufficient cause to justify the step; such as
barrenness, chronic disease, &c., in the woman.
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Footnote 9:
Agreement and settlement.
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‘Wherever there are two or more wives, an equal distribution of favors
is rigidly insisted on, (unless the secondary one happens to be of
inferior rank;) yet, let it not be inferred that any lady could be so
lost to delicacy as to urge her claims in direct terms. The sex have
always the command of general signs, whereby to intimate their
expectations in the most delicate manner. But, though jealous of her
rights, a wife of rank and education would, during the whole period of
her existence, deem it highly indelicate to neglect, in the most
secluded moments, a modest reluctance to comply with the solicitations
of her husband.
‘Among the slave-girls, there are always two or three who are considered
as the handmaids of the husband, and with whom, even by their religion,
an intercourse is permitted: however, this must be conducted in a
concealed manner. They, too, aping the manners of their mistresses, are
not always at the command of the master; and I have been assured, by men
of eminence and affluence among them, that, even in the midst of plenty,
they have suffered all the tantalization of want.
‘It is said, that Soojah Dowlah, whenever he paid a visit to any other
lady, always imposed on himself a fine of two thousand rupees, which he
sent to his wife. The prophet himself had only five wives, one of whom
he preferred to all the rest; yet, though much inclined, he durst not
visit her oftener than the others; two of whom, however, he ventured to
divorce, that the period of his enjoyment might more quickly revolve.
‘A wife may, in certain cases, insist on a divorce, such as inefficacy
in the husband, &c. under which circumstances she receives the
marriage-portion. It must be remarked, that, although the _mahir_ is
always fixed in the marriage articles, yet that there does not exist any
method of settling it on the wife independently, as among us; therefore,
this settlement consists only of terms, except in cases of divorce. The
word _mahir_ means, literally, the price paid for any thing.
‘A wife never brings a dowry to her husband, except her plentiful stock
may be so considered, such as cloaths, jewels, &c., which her parents
send with her, sometimes to so great an extent, as to preclude for years
the necessity of any supply from the husband.
‘When a divorce occurs, even on the demand of the wife, the husband is
obliged to support her as long as any possibility remains of her
affording nourishment to his offspring; and, should she then be
pregnant, the allowance must be continued to her, agreeably to her rank
in life, until the period of her delivery, when the child is taken from
her; unless she chooses to support it at her own expence, and is allowed
to do so by the father.
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