But of all attachments to an individual, that which is founded
altogether upon esteem and approbation of his good conduct and
behaviour, confirmed by much experience and long acquaintance, is, by
far, the most respectable. Such friendships, arising not from a
constrained sympathy, not from a sympathy which has been assumed and
rendered habitual for the sake of convenience and accommodation; but
from a natural sympathy, from an involuntary feeling that the persons
to whom we attach ourselves are the natural and proper objects of
esteem and approbation; can exist only among men of virtue. Men of
virtue only can feel that entire confidence in the conduct and
behaviour of one another, which can, at all times, assure them that
they can never either offend or be offended by one another. Vice is
always capricious: virtue only is regular and orderly. The attachment
which is founded upon the love of virtue, as it is certainly, of all
attachments, the most virtuous; so it is likewise the happiest, as
well as the most permanent and secure. Such friendships need not be
confined to a single person, but may safely embrace all the wise and
virtuous, with whom we have been long and intimately acquainted, and
upon whose wisdom and virtue we can, upon that account, entirely
depend. They who would confine friendship to two persons, seem to
confound the wise security of friendship with the jealousy and folly
of love. The hasty, fond, and foolish intimacies of young people,
founded, commonly, upon some slight similarity of character,
altogether unconnected with good conduct, upon a taste, perhaps, for
the same studies, the same amusements, the same diversions, or upon
their agreement in some singular principle or opinion, not commonly
adopted; those intimacies which a freak begins, and which a freak puts
an end to, how agreeable soever they may appear while they last, can
by no means deserve the sacred and the venerable name of friendship.
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