For example: A woman came to me in deep distress. The man she loved had left her for other women, and said he never intended to marry her. She was torn with jealousy and resentment and said she hoped he would suffer as he had made her suffer; and added, “How could he leave me when I loved him so much?” I replied, “You are not loving that man, you are hating him,” and added, “_You can never receive what you have never given. Give a perfect love and you will receive a perfect love._ Perfect yourself on this man. Give him a perfect, _unselfish_ love, demanding nothing in return, do not criticise or condemn, and _bless him wherever he is_.” She replied, “No, I won’t bless him unless I know where he is!” “Well,” I said, “that is not real love.” “When you _send out real love_, real love will return to you, either from this man or his equivalent, for if this man is not the divine selection, you will not want him. As you are one with God, you are one with the love which belongs to you by divine right.” Several months passed, and matters remained about the same, but she was working conscientiously with herself. I said, “When you are no longer disturbed by his cruelty, he will cease to be cruel, as you are attracting it through your own emotions.” Then I told her of a brotherhood in India, who never said, “Good morning” to each other. They used these words: “_I salute the Divinity in you._” They saluted the divinity in every man, and in the wild animals in the jungle, and they were never harmed, for they _saw only God in every_ living thing. I said, “Salute the divinity in this man, and say, ‘I see your divine self only. I see you as God sees you, perfect, made in His image and likeness.’” She found she was becoming more poised, and gradually losing her resentment. He was a Captain, and she always called him “The Cap.” One day, she said, suddenly, “_God bless the Cap wherever he is._” I replied: “Now, that is real love, and when you have become a ‘complete circle,’ and are no longer disturbed by the situation, you will have his love, or attract its equivalent.” I was moving at this time, and did not have a telephone, so was out of touch with her for a few weeks, when one morning I received a letter saying, “We are married.” At the earliest opportunity, I paid her a call. My first words were, “What happened?” “Oh,” she exclaimed, “a miracle! One day I woke up and all suffering had ceased. I saw him that evening and he asked me to marry him. We were married in about a week, and I have never seen a more devoted man.” There is an old saying: “_No man is your enemy, no man is your friend, every man is your teacher._” So one should become impersonal and learn what each man has to teach him, and soon he would learn his lessons and be free. The woman’s lover was teaching her selfless love, which every man, sooner or later, must learn.