But the adolescent girl does not think in “dreams” alone. She thinks
in the hard terms of the practical and the every day. Her mental life,
expanding and enlarging, is stirred to unusual activity, as is her
physical nature, and she makes so many discoveries absolutely new to
her that she thinks them new to all. She gives information of all
sorts to her family and expects respectful attention. She knows more
than her mother, criticizes her father, gives advice to her
grandmother, and is willing to decide all questions for the younger
members of the family. She has a new idea of her own importance, and
sees herself magnified.
It seems but yesterday since she was just a little girl, willing to be
guided, directed, ruled by her elders. Now she resents the direct
command, persists in asking “why,” and is not satisfied with “because
I think best.” She chafes under strict discipline, rebels openly,
sulks, or yields with an air of desperate resignation when her dearest
desires are denied. She thinks she knows best. That is her chief
trouble. The things she wants to do seem best to her,—she thinks they
will mean her real happiness, therefore she chooses them. That were
she allowed to follow her own choice, ten years from now she would
sadly regret it does not influence her much, for the now is so near
and so desirable.
I was calling one evening in the home of a friend who has a
sixteen-year-old daughter. A few moments after I was seated she came
into the room wearing a simple evening gown of pale blue silk, her
hair arranged in the latest fashion, and her eyes dancing with
excitement and anticipation. I could easily pardon the look of
satisfied pride upon the faces of both her father and mother. After
greeting me cordially she said, “Mother, I may do it just this time,
mayn’t I? Please, mother!” “Do what?” said the mother. “You know, the
carriage. Harry’s father gave him the money, and it’s so much nicer
than the crowded car.”
“I told you this afternoon what I thought about it,” said the mother,
“but you may ask your father.”
She referred the matter to him. “Harry” wanted to have a carriage and
drive home after the party, his father was willing and had given him
the money. And now mother objected! All the nicest girls were going to
do it, but mother preferred a crowded street-car! Supreme disgust and
a sense of injustice showed in voice and manner. Her father smiled, as
he said, “Well, I think your mother is about right.” Still the girl
persisted until her father said sternly, “Mildred, you may do as we
wish or remain at home.” Sullen silence followed, while she made
preparations to go. As her mother helped her on with her wrap, she
said kindly, “I’m so sorry, Mildred. It is hard for us to deny you,
but a few years from now you will understand and be grateful.”
The daughter’s answer came quickly: “That is what you always say, but
I know I’m missing all the pleasures the other girls have.”
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
Reviews
Reviews
No reviews yet
Be the first to share your thoughts on this work.
Join the Discussion
Join the discussion
Sign in to leave a comment or review.
Sign InorCreate an account