made the difference between her and those all about me? Before I could
answer her question or my own, three automobiles passed, filled with
laughing girls and boys, all in their teens. Their faces were
different from those in the grove,—their laughter more musical,—the
automobiles bore their country’s flag, the girls wore flowers. I knew
some of the faces—it was a “house party,” and they were off for a
“good time.”
Suddenly it surged over me that this was but one little spot in the
great country—and the rush of the other thousands, the shop girls,
clerks, the office girls, the students, all in search of a good time
oppressed me, and before my mind hurried back to a Chinese
kindergarten, my heart cried, “Oh, Lord, how shall the world _play_
with real pleasure and profit?” Is _this_ the way? I heard no answer.
The problem is too big for me, yet I cannot let it alone, for the
world must play, and always the most eager players are young,—and
always the girl in her teens is the center of the game.
Man is social. He must have companionships and pleasures in common
with his kind. Only when physically deficient, mentally deformed,
abnormal, does he become anti-social. This is true all through life
and especially true in adolescence when nature is most keenly
conscious of elemental powers and passions.
It is true that the girl in her teens is often alone. Alone she dreams
her day-dreams, writes her poems, floods her imagination with all the
things that are to be. In common with all humanity she meets her
deepest experiences alone. Yesterday a girl of nineteen tried to tell
me of the happiness her engagement to a fine, strong man had brought
to her. She said, “all that it means _can’t_ be said.” Last week a
girl of eighteen tried to tell out all the loneliness and crushing
disappointment her mother’s death had brought, but she ended her
appeal for help with the old cry, “no one can really help, I’ve just
got to bear it.” Before the teens have passed so many girls learn that
great joy and great sorrow must be met alone.
But for the common life of the every day, man lives with others. He
can neither work alone nor play alone, and with adolescence comes the
realization of it sweeping into the life. “The gang,” “our crowd,”
“our set,” work and play together.
The girl who loves and seeks solitude continually is ill mentally,
physically, or spiritually, and needs watchful, sympathetic care,
which shall discover the cause of her morbidness and help her to
escape from it.
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