Keeping pace with the deepening and broadening of the religious sense
and the physical growth and development, the intellectual powers have
been busy grasping new truths, eagerly seizing new facts that relate
to life, comparing, rejecting, reasoning, indeed for the first time
_independently_ thinking.
Before her friends realize it, the years have hurried past and the
time has come when only one more “teen” remains. She is eighteen.
Eighteen may find her plunged into life as a wage-earner, one of the
procession of thousands of girls facing realities that are hard. It
may find her already in the whirl of social life, struggling to meet
its demands, or in college facing its problems. Wherever it finds her,
two things are true of her. She thinks for herself,—and she is
critical.
Many of the theories of life and religion which she accepted
unquestioningly she questions now. Doubts assail her, and she is
perplexed by the evidence of wrong and evil resulting not only from
weakness, but from deliberate planning. If all her ideals fail her, if
the men and women she has trusted disappoint her, she grows cynical,
and tells you that “no one is what he seems.”
Now, more than at any time in her life, she needs to meet fine men and
women, that they may overbalance those whom she thinks have failed.
She needs to know definitely the good being done everywhere in the
world, to study great sociological movements, to see the efforts being
made to meet the special needs of the day, the problems of the cities,
and the salvation of the individual. Biography is good for her, and
sketches of real men and women living and working for and with their
fellows strengthen her faith and steady her.
Now is the time when she so easily develops into a gossip, and she
needs anything and everything that will help her despise it, and
provide her with something to talk about beside her neighbors and
associates.
She is keenly critical, because she is comparing theories and
life—because her ideals are high and her requirements match her
ideals. She is scornful, because she has not lived long enough to
realize how easy it is to fail, and she has not learned to let mercy
temper justice. She doubts because she is not able to adjust things
which seem to conflict, and experience has not yet helped her find
harmony in seeming discord.
She still loves a good time, and has it. Her ability as leader,
manager, or organizer reveals itself quickly if opportunity is given.
Her tendency toward introspection and self analysis often makes her
unhappy, dissatisfied and restless. She longs unspeakably to find her
work, to be sure she is in the right place in the great world. She
needs patience, real sympathy, and understanding from those with whom
she lives; to be led, not driven, by those who control her; positive
teaching on the part of all who instruct her, concrete interests,
social opportunities, and some one to love.
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