The Girl's Own Paper, Vol. VIII, No. 366, January 1, 1887Various
General
The Girl's Own Paper, Vol. VIII, No. 366, January 1, 1887
Various
Children's literature -- Periodicals
If such a statement as that the body of the late Prince Leopold was to
be “burned” at Frogmore can pass the proof-readers and appear, as it
did, in a public paper, it is not much wonder if girls, in their hasty,
thoughtless letters to one another, often say things quite as untrue
without the smallest intention of misleading. Girls do not always write
their meaning very clearly (nor other people either, for that matter),
and even the omission of a comma, to say nothing of a “not” or a
“sometimes,” may make all the difference in the world to a sentence.
Separations caused by misunderstandings are hard to bridge, because it
is so impossible to trace them to their beginnings. We have forgotten
ourselves what it was that first aroused the feeling of distrust, and
because we cannot give a reason for the feeling it is probably the
stronger. “I feel because I feel” is, after all, a position of great
strength. But we have lost each other as in a maze whose complications
are too numerous to permit of return or even exit, and here there is no
man in the middle to point out the way backwards or forwards.
Interference from without, tale-bearing, and meddling generally are
such obvious modes of dividing friends that I need hardly allude to
them except to say that outsiders rather overlook the fact that the
“third body” is nearly as much in the way between friends as between
lovers. Both resent having their quarrels made up from without; the
would-be healing hand is in most cases changed into that thumb about
which we so often hear, and which makes a small breach a large one.
I will only now speak of one more way in which friends part utterly,
and that is the parting of determined purpose for some clearly-defined
reason. This is not to be done lightly, and will only—can only—be done
by girls of decided character.
The reasons for such partings must lie deep, and in light, unthinking
characters there is no depth to contain them. Earnest differences will
often spring up on religious questions, and if their convictions or
fanaticism lead them to believe such differences vital, girls will
sometimes mutually agree, either tacitly or in words, to bring their
friendship to a close and be in future mere acquaintances.
When two friends disagree in matters of religion, the subject is
generally altogether dropped between them; and can there be a true
friendship, do you think, when what is of vital interest and importance
to both is entirely left out of conversation?
Minor religious differences are of no consequence; but let there be
agreement in what an old woman aptly called “the fundamentals,” and
this Christians of different sects can certainly manage to do.
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