The Girl's Own Paper, Vol. XX, No. 988, December 3, 1898Various
General
The Girl's Own Paper, Vol. XX, No. 988, December 3, 1898
Various
Children's literature -- Periodicals
A clever hostess will do her best to secure some few good talkers at
her table, in order that no pauses of sufficient length to give a sense
of uncomfortable silence may occur; nothing more than those little gaps
in conversation poetically supposed to be caused by "Angels passing."
We are not all geniuses in the talking line, but we are bound to take
our share, so far as in us lies, in contributing to brightness and
cheerfulness at table; only, of course, young girls are not expected
to bring themselves prominently forward in that way, and young or old
it should not be forgotten that a "voice soft, gentle and low, is an
excellent thing in woman," and that a shrill laugh, or an exclamation
so highly pitched that it pierces through the ordinary hum of sound,
is anything but agreeable or attractive. Also, it should be remembered
that dinners are meant to be enjoyed, and men especially feel aggrieved
if they are exposed to a constant fire of words, worst of all if those
words resolve themselves into questions which require answers. Chilly
soup, tepid fish, and entrées bolted for want of time to eat them
properly, produce feelings of anger which even beauty itself can hardly
stand against, if the beauty's chatter has caused the annoyance, that
is to say. So it is wise to let your neighbour on either hand enjoy his
dinner in peace, undisturbed by too much conversation, although at the
same time he must not be allowed to suppose that a dumb doll dressed in
pretty clothes is sitting beside him.
Do not crumble your bread over the tablecloth by way of inspiration,
if you think you ought to say something and can find nothing; do not
play with your wine-glasses either, until, very likely, you upset one
of them; nor drop your dinner-napkin, gloves, etc., which makes a
commotion and is rather a bore.
Such small things seem hardly worth mentioning, but tricks of any kind
are to be avoided, as they generally give the impression of awkwardness.
Should you happen to go down to dinner with the master of the house,
it is as well to let your hostess have a chance of catching your eye
to give the signal when she wishes to leave the table, but never on
any account fall into the mistake which I once heard was made by a
woman who ought to have known better. She imagined that the lady of the
house was very inexperienced and was sitting on an unconscionable time
because she did not know when to go, and so she, the guest, actually
took it upon herself to push her own chair back a little, with a glance
at her hostess; but the latter, looking steadily at her presuming
acquaintance, said very quietly, "I do not think I made a move, Mrs.
----" and sat on for another ten minutes.
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