The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental Women — John Shaqi
The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental WomenCooper, Elizabeth
Religion
The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental Women
Cooper, Elizabeth
East Asia -- Social life and customs; Women -- East Asia
The trousseau is provided by the father of the bride, and the articles
she takes to her new home in the shape of furniture, jewelry, etc., are
her property and can be taken with her if she should return to her
father’s home or if she should be left a widow. The bridegroom is
supposed to help pay the expenses of the elaborate feasting which lasts
from three to seven days, and which is often a great drain upon the
resources of both families. Custom has commanded that no parsimony shall
be shown at this time of rejoicing, and each family tries to outdo its
neighbour in the form of entertainment offered to its guests.
Theatrical entertainments are held in the courtyards, or in the large
guest-room. Dancing girls dance and jugglers perform, while food is most
plentifully provided, but there is no drinking of intoxicating liquors
in the home of a follower of Mohammed. In the place of wines, sherbets,
fruit juices, and coffee are served.
The culmination of the festivities comes when the bride in a gaily
decorated carriage is conducted to her new home. In the streets of any
large city one often sees these processions, the band leading the march,
dozens of singers preceding the carriage, and friends following, all
trying to show their joy in the happy event.
According to Western ideals there is one great bar to the lasting
happiness of the Moslem woman, and that is the question of divorce. It
is said that 90 per cent. of the marriages in Egypt end in divorce, and
that two people who live to an old age together without one of them
being divorced are rarely found. Mohammed has been severely censured
because of this great blot upon the progressive laws he made for his
people, but before his time there was no check on divorce; a man could
divorce often and for no reason, and a woman was helpless. This wise man
laid down laws far in advance of his time on this subject, and (what was
then an unheard of thing) allowed a woman to divorce her husband for
explicitly stated causes.
If they divorce for mutual incompatibility—that is, if they both agree
to it—there need be no question of the courts; but if the wife wishes to
be free and the husband will not permit it, the woman may go before a
judge and state her case, and if her charges are proven she will be
granted her petition. Often a woman will return her dower or agree to
forfeit the part not yet paid, or in many cases make a money payment to
the avaricious husband in return for her liberty. A case not long ago
came before the judge where the husband treated his wife brutally in
order to force from her a certain sum of money in exchange for her
freedom. The woman paid the sum demanded, then took the case before the
judge, and proved that his cruel treatment would entitle her to a
divorce, and the courts compelled the man to return the money to his
ex-wife with an added gift.
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