The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental Women — John Shaqi
The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental WomenCooper, Elizabeth
Religion
The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental Women
Cooper, Elizabeth
East Asia -- Social life and customs; Women -- East Asia
If divorce is prevalent in the Land of the Nile, that other great
domestic evil, polygamy, is slowly dying out, mainly for an economic
reason. All the wives in a family are supposed to have equal support,
and in these days, when the women of Egypt are beginning to know and
crave the luxuries of life, it is hard for a man, unless of the very
wealthy class, to provide for more than one family. In a rich household
each wife would demand, not only her own suite of rooms, but quite
likely her own house and staff of servants, and she would see that her
husband did not show favouritism in regard to clothes, jewelry, or
amusements towards the women and children in his harim. Often in poorer
homes one sees two wives living in peace together, but the man with more
than one wife is becoming rarer each year. It is said that not one man
in fifty has more than one wife. The cynics say that it is because
divorce is so much easier and cheaper, but we believe that it is because
of the higher ideals that are coming to the Egyptian along with the
education that he is receiving from the Western world.
It is easy for the Western mind to take exaggerated views of the
unhappiness of the life in the harim. I found, among the better classes,
with whom I came into contact more than I did with the very poor, the
same average of happiness that prevails in any land. Seclusion which
seems so dreadful in our eyes has grown to be a matter of caste, and the
older women, at least, have no desire to depart from it. The power of
the husband is greater than it is in foreign lands, but he is generally
a kindly man who leaves the women’s department strictly alone, to be
ordered as his wife desires. It is she who has charge of the children
while in infancy, teaching them or having them taught the Koran, taking
them with her on visits to friends, and being with them much more than
does the average Western mother of the same class. A middle-class
Egyptian woman does practically the same things as does the wife of a
middle-class Englishman. She cooks, washes, mends the clothing, keeps
the house, and sews her children’s dresses. If she is able to have
servants—and one is very poor in Egypt not to be able to afford at least
one servant—the work of the household is superintended directly by the
mistress. Of course she may not go to the market nor to the shops, but
she inspects the food when brought to the house by the vendor or the
cook.
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