The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental WomenCooper, Elizabeth
Religion
The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental Women
Cooper, Elizabeth
East Asia -- Social life and customs; Women -- East Asia
I heard one rather peculiar story while in India in regard to the
cremation of the dead. I sat at dinner beside an English official who
had been many years in the Government service of India. In the course of
the conversation I asked him what he thought about cremation. He said,
with a smile: “Well, I am perhaps a little prejudiced in regard to the
cremation of the dead. I had rather a peculiar experience.” I settled
back in my chair, hoping I was to hear one of the many stories of Indian
life which these old officials have to tell us if they find we are
interested in the lives of the people amongst whom they work. He said:
“I had an acquaintance once, a Scotchman, who died here in India, and
asked in his will that I and another friend would cremate him, and not
allow an Indian hand to touch him, but that we should personally attend
to all the details. We were young then in things Indian, and made our
first mistake in buying the wood for the pyre. Unfortunately for our
friend, the wily wood-merchant sold us green wood, and for the first day
he only smoked. By the second day the wood had dried out, and all would
have been well if we had known that the skull of a person burned should
be broken in order to allow the gases to escape. We did not know
this—our friend blew up. We spent the remainder of the second day in
gathering his remains and replacing them upon the fire. The third day
the work was fully accomplished; his ashes were collected and now repose
in a beautiful urn in his family chapel near Edinburgh.”
Ceremonies are held and sacrifices are made for ten days by the members
of a family in which there has been a death. If the deceased was a
married man, it is on the tenth day that the widow is degraded into her
state of widowhood. This rite is called “the cutting of the cord,”
because then the tali, the symbol of wifehood, is cut, and the woman has
no more place in Hindu society. The relatives and friends come to the
house and deck the poor woman in all her festive clothing; jewels are
put upon her, flowers, and sandal paste. Her friends mourn with her for
a time, then her bright clothing is removed, her beautiful black hair is
cut, and she must remain for ever close-shaven and clothed in a garment
of white. She may attend no feast, is permitted to eat only one meal a
day, and that should be prepared by her own hands, may not partake of
meat, and if she is so unfortunate as to be poor in this world’s goods
she becomes the drudge and servant of her husband’s family. She is
considered unclean, a thing of ill-omen, so unlucky that if a man were
starting on some business venture and on leaving his doorway should by
chance meet a widow he would return to his house and say a few prayers
to counteract his bad luck.
[Illustration:
INDIAN WOMEN SPINNING.
To face p. 148.]
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