The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental WomenCooper, Elizabeth
Religion
The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental Women
Cooper, Elizabeth
East Asia -- Social life and customs; Women -- East Asia
While we were in this State there arose a case that was causing a great
deal of comment. The son of a woman was killed and the murderer was
condemned to death. In this Mohammedan country the law “a life for a
life” prevails, and the death penalty cannot be revoked unless the heir
of the dead man demands it. In some Hindu communities, where the saving
of life is a meritorious performance, the village or city will often
raise a certain sum and offer it to the heir in exchange for the life of
the condemned prisoner. Men, I was told, will sometimes take the money,
but women, especially if it was their son or husband who was killed,
will practically always demand the life. In this instance the woman, who
was a devout Mohammedan, took the money and sent it to help her
fellow-Mohammedans in their war with the infidel Italians. Her religious
zeal overcame the instinct for revenge, so deeply planted within the
breast of all followers of the Arabian prophet.
At tea at the home of a Mohammedan I met several ladies, who willingly
discussed with me the difference between the social customs of our
Western land and those governing the life of the woman of the East. I
was told that there is no society life as we know it, no calling, nor
promiscuous making of new acquaintances. The social life centres around
the three great events of Indian life—births, weddings, and deaths. If a
wedding occurs in a family, the mother will send invitations to all the
ladies of the same social standing as herself, and, dressed in their
most gorgeous saris and jewels, they come to the house, where elaborate
refreshments are served with much gossiping and merry-making. The guests
stay hours or days, according to their relationship to the family. Also
at times of death they go and offer their condolences to the bereaved
family, and although colours are much more subdued at the time of sorrow
than at the time of rejoicing, it is often another place in which to
show off new finery. These secluded women feel like the little girl who
stopped to see a friend on her way to a funeral. She was dressed in a
bright pink sari, and when remonstrated with on wearing such a gay dress
on such a mournful occasion, said, “Why, how can I be sure that I will
get another chance to show it.”
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