The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental WomenCooper, Elizabeth
Religion
The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental Women
Cooper, Elizabeth
East Asia -- Social life and customs; Women -- East Asia
I said to my hostess in the course of the conversation: “If I were a
Mohammedan or a Hindu lady and came here to live, would the ladies whose
husbands perhaps had business associations with my husband come to call
upon me?” She said: “No, not at all. You would never meet the ladies
unless at the time of some festivity you were invited.” I asked the
reason for this, and they answered, “Custom”—the word that rules the
whole Eastern world. This lack of exchange of courtesies between new
people is traced in some cases to the attitude of the husbands, who seem
afraid to allow their wives to make new acquaintances. They must decide
whom the wife shall visit. They must know that the house visited is
strictly secluded, that the hostess has no advanced ideas, and that the
husband is a man of standing before they allow their women to make new
friends. They say that it is the desire of protection, not deprivation
of liberty, that causes them to take such care of their dear ones.
An Englishwoman ten years ago tried to meet the Indian ladies, and sent
sixty invitations for a tea. Only three of the invited guests put in an
appearance. She persisted, convinced the husbands that no male eyes
would gaze upon their secluded treasures, and now the original sixty
have come with nearly every high-class lady in Hyderabad, so that on her
reception days the house is crowded.
There is a club where the Mohammedan and Hindu ladies meet once a month
and play badminton, and eat much cake and gossip. Still, they are not as
yet taking any active interest in social work, nor in what is going on
in the world outside. Mme. Sarojinni Naidu, the Indian poetess whose
charming poems have been so well received in England, and who is herself
a social favourite in that country, has been trying to interest the
ladies of Hyderabad in social work among women. She has been specially
interested in reviving the old industry of silk-weaving, and the weavers
through her efforts have been encouraged to do their best work. She has
sold thousands of rupees worth of the beautiful silks to her friends
within the zenanas, but it is rather discouraging work, as it has caused
her to be looked upon with suspicion by many of the officials, who fear
that she may be using her influence with the people for some Socialistic
movement.
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