The history of the condition of women in various ages and nations : $b Vol. 1 (of 2), Comprising the women of Asia and AfricaChild, Lydia Maria
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The history of the condition of women in various ages and nations : $b Vol. 1 (of 2), Comprising the women of Asia and Africa
Child, Lydia Maria
Women -- History; Women -- Social conditions
When a Hindoo has fixed his mind upon what he considers a suitable
match for his son, he sends a stranger to sound the girl’s father, in
order to save himself the shame of an open rejection. If the suggestion
be favorably received, he goes and makes a formal proposition. He must
be accompanied by some married woman, by several relations, and a
Bramin skilled to explain omens. To meet a dealer in oil, a dog that
shakes his ears, a crow flying over their heads, and a hundred other
such things, are considered signs so unlucky, as to make it necessary
to defer the visit. He generally carries the _pariam_, a sum of money
from four to six guineas, as the price of the girl. Such marriages
are said to be by _pariam_. The bride’s father returns the visit with
great ceremony and pomp, carrying presents to the bridegroom. After
these formalities, the girl is considered as sold; but the match may
be broken off, and the _pariam_ returned, if it be determined by a
general meeting of the relatives, and sometimes of the whole caste,
that the bride’s father has any justifiable reason for so doing. To
avoid the expense of an entertainment which it is customary to give,
the _pariam_ is frequently paid on the wedding day; but some pay it
a year beforehand. The bridegroom presents the bride with a piece of
silk, which she wears on the wedding day. This garment is always silk,
if the parties be ever so poor. If the _pariam_ be in money, it is tied
up in one corner of this robe; if it be a jewel, it is laid upon it.
There is another kind of marriage where the _pariam_ is dispensed with.
This is called _cannigadanam_, which signifies _the gift of a maiden_.
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