The Intermediate Sex: A Study of Some Transitional Types of Men and WomenCarpenter, Edward
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The Intermediate Sex: A Study of Some Transitional Types of Men and Women
Carpenter, Edward
Homosexuality; Sex
Another direction along which the temperament very naturally finds an
outlet is the important social work of Education. The capacity that a
man has, in cases, of devoting himself to the welfare of boys or youths,
is clearly a thing which ought not to go wasted--and which may be most
precious and valuable. It is incontestable that a great number of men
(and women) are drawn into the teaching profession by this sentiment--and
the work they do is, in many cases, beyond estimation. Fortunate the boy
who meets with such a helper in early life! I know a man--a rising and
vigorous thinker and writer--who tells me that he owes almost everything
mentally to such a friend of his boyhood, who took the greatest interest
in him, saw him almost every day for many years, and indeed cleared up
for him not only things mental but things moral, giving him the affection
and guidance his young heart needed. And I have myself known and watched
not a few such teachers, in public schools and in private schools, and
seen something of the work and of the real inspiration they have been to
boys under them. Hampered as they have been by the readiness of the world
to misinterpret, they still have been able to do most precious service.
Of course here and there a case occurs in which privilege is abused; but
even then the judgment of the world is often unreasonably severe. A poor
boy once told me with tears in his eyes of the work a man had done for
him. This man had saved the boy from drunken parents, taken him from the
slums, and by means of a club helped him out into the world. Many other
boys he had rescued, it appeared, in the same way--scores and scores of
them. But on some occasion or other he got into trouble, and was accused
of improper familiarities. No excuse, or record of a useful life, was of
the least avail. Every trumpery slander was believed, every mean motive
imputed, and he had to throw up his position and settle elsewhere, his
life-work shattered, never to be resumed.
The capacity for sincere affection which causes an elder man to care so
deeply for the welfare of a youth or boy, is met and responded to by a
similar capacity in the young thing of devotion to an elder man. This
fact is not always recognised; but I have known cases of boys and even
young men who would feel the most romantic attachments to quite mature
men, sometimes as much as forty or fifty years of age, and only for
them--passing by their own contemporaries of either sex, and caring only
to win a return affection from these others. This may seem strange, but
it is true. And the fact not only makes one understand what riddles there
are slumbering in the breasts of our children, but how greatly important
it is that we should try to read them--since here, in such cases as
these, the finding of an answering heart in an elder man would probably
be the younger one’s salvation.
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