The Ladies of the White House; Or, in the Home of the Presidents: Being a Complete History of the Social and Domestic Lives of the Presidents from Washington to the Present Time—1789–1881Holloway, Laura C. (Laura Carter)
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The Ladies of the White House; Or, in the Home of the Presidents: Being a Complete History of the Social and Domestic Lives of the Presidents from Washington to the Present Time—1789–1881
Holloway, Laura C. (Laura Carter)
Presidents -- United States -- Biography; Presidents' spouses -- United States -- Biography
An anecdote is related of Mrs. Madison, in connection with Mrs. Merry,
wife of the British Minister, and Thomas Moore, the poet. Mr. and Mrs.
Merry were invited to dine with President Jefferson; when dinner was
announced, Mrs. Madison happened to be standing and talking to the
President, at some distance from Mrs. Merry, and he offered his arm to
her and conducted her to the table, where she always presided when no
members of his family were present. This attention to the wife of the
Secretary of State was considered by Mrs. Merry as an insult. “Such a
stir was made by the angry ambassador, that Mr. Madison wrote to Mr.
Monroe (who had succeeded Mr. King as our Minister to England),
apprising him of the facts, to enable him to answer an expected call of
the British Government for official explanations. Mr. Monroe, however,
got his first information from a friendly British under-secretary, who
intimated that he would soon probably hear of the matter through a
different channel. The Minister was delighted. Within a very short
period, the wife of an English under-secretary had been accorded
precedence over his own, under analogous circumstances. He had no great
fund of humor, but the absurdity of the whole affair, and the excellent
materials in his possession for a reply to a call for explanations,
struck him in a most amusing light. Shaking with merriment, he hinted to
his informant the satisfaction the call would give him. He never
afterward heard a lisp on the subject.”
President Jefferson had abolished all etiquette in regard to official
precedence when he went in office, and Mrs. Merry knew this, but she
never forgave the occurrence, and never afterward went to the White
House. Mrs. Madison regretted being the innocent cause of such a
trouble, but she was spared further notoriety by the absence of the
British Minister or his family ever afterward at the President’s
reunions. The affair was not, however, destined to end here, for after
the first clamor had subsided, the President, through another foreign
Minister, inquired if Mr. and Mrs. Merry would accept an invitation to a
family dinner. It was understood that they would accept, and Mr.
Jefferson wrote the invitation himself. Mr. Merry addressed a note to
the Secretary of State to know if he was invited in his private or
official capacity; “if in the one, he must obtain the permission of his
sovereign; if in the other, he must receive an assurance in advance that
he would be treated as became his position.” Mr. Madison ended the
correspondence with a very dry note. Thomas Moore, who was travelling in
the United States at this time, and being a friend of Mrs. Merry’s, and
disgusted with his reception, fell to lampooning the President and
everything American, except a few attentive Federal gentlemen and
ladies.
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