Poor -- New York (State) -- New York; Social settlements
At the lower rounds of the social ladder in the wage-earning world the
mother and baby are inseparable, if the mother does not drink. Night and
day the baby is cared for, often in hopeless ignorance, but cared for.
Often everything else is neglected. When the baby sleeps, the mother is too
tired to work, too indifferent. When awake, the baby insists on being held.
One is frequently reminded of the story of the woman whose moan when her
baby died was: "What excuse can I give John now?" Yet the day that baby is
able to walk alone on the street the mother loosens her hold. The baby
finds its freedom limited only by its ability to remain upright, and to
return to its home for meals and at night. "Throw me the key and a piece of
bread," is often the extent of its demands from the sidewalk. True, the
mother knows every woman in the block will be, in an emergency, a mother.
The child learns to care for itself; it makes less and less demands on the
mother, who may even now have another baby compelling all her thought and
time. Above this scale, where home-making assumes importance, the child
remains longer under the mother's care; is watched when on the street by
glances from the window; is sent to school, and some oversight maintained
over its school life; but the wage-earning period means emancipation from
oversight often even at this level. Hundreds of girls start out and find
work for the first time without any evident responsibility on the part of
even good mothers. No amount of familiarity with this exercise of freedom
deadens the horror of it to the outsider. Women, mothers of attractive
daughters, will not know the street on which the daughters work. After one
of the most disastrous fires in New York, in which many working girls
perished, four mothers notified the police the next day that their
daughters had disappeared. It was the failure to trace the girls and the
advertising of their disappearance that led, through companions who had
escaped from the building, to the awful conclusion that these four had
perished in the flames.
Sometimes it would be difficult for a mother to go to the place where the
daughter finds employment; but here, as in everything else in life, that
which is deemed the more important receives attention. Perhaps it is the
habit of trust, or indifference, that governs mothers' activities.
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